When you wake up crying

You feel much better after a cry.

When you wake up crying real tears, or simply feeling profoundly sad for no apparent reason, it’s because you have finally touched upon some buried grief through a dream. You may have released it all, or there may be more to come. Either way, this is good and healing. (Don’t you always feel much better after a cry?) Even if you don’t remember the dream, rest assured that tears are better out than in, and although you may become more aware, in the next few days, of a past event that caused you grief, you are well on the way to finally letting it go and moving on.

There will be times, in your past, where you were unable to express your grief, or where you felt you should try to hide it.

There will be times, in your past, where you were unable to express your grief, or where you felt you should try to hide it.

There will be times, in your past, where you were unable to express your grief, or where you felt you should try to hide it. Perhaps ‘boys don’t cry’, or you were advised to ‘keep a stiff upper lip’, or you accepted a hurtful situation as normal or something to be endured, so you packed grief away, out of sight. Or perhaps the only way to get through a situation was to pretend to yourself that it wasn’t happening, or wasn’t important, or that you were coping wonderfully, or needed to smile for others, or that you had already healed.

The deeper wound still hurts, affecting how you live your life.

The deeper wound still hurts, affecting how you live your life.

These, and other forms of denial, are like bandaids. They work on the surface, but the deeper wound still hurts, affecting how you live your life.

One day the grief finally breaks through – perhaps accompanied by a dream of a dam bursting, or a tsunami breaking – and you wake up crying.

If you can remember your dream, look for clues about your grief, as understanding the past will help you to accelerate your healing.

 

What age is the child?

What age is the child?

Look for a young child or younger person who seems sad, or hurt, or trying to cover up his or her feelings.

What age is the child?

Ask what happened for you at that age, or that number of years ago. It doesn’t matter whether the child or person looks like you. He or she most likely symbolises the event or your hurt.

Also look for historical markers in your dream, perhaps cars, houses, clothes, or numbers that help to give you a time period to explore.

When you have found the source of your grief, do this dream alchemy practice:

Visualise hugging and comforting yourself as you were back then, or hugging and comforting the child in the dream.

Visualise hugging and comforting yourself as you were back then, or hugging and comforting the child in the dream.

Close your eyes, and visualise hugging and comforting yourself as you were back then, or hugging and comforting the child in the dream. Let her cry all her tears dry, then let her smile and laugh and grow strong and happy. Tell her how wonderful her life will be now that her tears have washed it all away, and see her growing, before your eyes, changing and becoming a strong, happy, powerful, and relieved new you. Merge with her in your mind’s eye, and take her, fully healed, into your heart.

[Extract from 101 Dream Interpretation Tips, Jane Teresa Anderson]

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166 Responses to When you wake up crying

  1. Jenn says:

    Hi Jane,
    I had a dream last night where my mother who recently passed from breast cancer called me. My mother and I were very close, we talked every day saw each other regularly. She hid the fact she had cancer from my sister and I so it was a very tragic loss when we took her to the hospital and six days later she died. I have been grieving since her death and feel I have come to understand why she chose this way and I respect her decision although I would not chose the same for myself. I recently started going through the medical process to make sure with her history all is ok with me. We are still waiting on test results so there has been a lot on my mind at times. In my dream my mother called me while I was in the car and she asked if I forgot about her and my response was, “Never, I just miss you so much and wish we could talk and see other.” The part that I remember waking crying out loud to and actually woke my husband was when she told me her brother was sick with cancer too that nobody knew about and that he was afraid to tell anyone because he thought we would be mad at him. I am very close to my uncle and now fear something is going on with him since my mother presented this through the dream. I don’t know how to process this and was hoping you could offer some insight.
    Jenn

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Jenn, Sorry to hear about your loss, and it must have been deeply upsetting to discover your mother’s decision not to tell you about her cancer. While you have worked your way, consciously, to understanding and respecting her decision, there will be deeper responses reverberating within you, some of which are being processed in this dream. At the same time, your dream is processing your grief, as well as your thoughts and feelings around anticipating the results of your test.

      While there is a small chance that you received (or tuned into) information about your uncle, it is most likely that the dream is symbolic, dealing with issues around your mother’s non-disclosure. It’s easy enough to check on your uncle – ask him!

      If you’d like to look more deeply into this dream, how it relates on a deeper level to your life, and how it can help you with the emotions and issues you are facing now, you can book a consultation:
      http://janeteresaanderson.com/consultations/

      Many blessings,

      Jane Teresa

    • chantelle says:

      Hi jane I’ve been haveing counciling sessions with a lad called gary. I had a dream last night about the past with what’s happend and it has been repeating with everythink what happend to me when I was young I don’t reali understand why am having these dream its decterbing my sleep am waking up throw the night. I woke up at 12 then fell back a sleep then woke up at 3 crying? Could you tell me why am having all these dreams what happend to me in the past? X

      • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

        Hi Chantelle,

        Are you finding your counselling sessions with Gary helpful? What’s likely to be happening is that your dreams are helping you to process the things you’ve been talking about in your sessions. Our dreams reflect the last 24-48 hours, and are our mind’s way of updating our picture of the world. This can mean updating our view of the past (changing the picture, changing the way we look at the past and changing the way we think about ourselves), and it can also mean updating our feelings. When we experience trauma, we often try to bury our feelings, or bury our memories of the pain. If Gary has been helping you to get in touch with those feelings, then your dreams are probably following through and allowing you to shed some tears. When you get in touch with these painful feelings you can let them go and move forward with your life in happier more peaceful ways.

        Here’s an article about dreams to help you understand how they reflect what’s going on for us:
        http://www.dream.net.au/aboutjane/about_dreams.cfm

        I hope this helps,
        Many blessings,
        Jane Teresa

  2. Patty Dilling says:

    Hi Jane, my Mother recently passed away on September 18, 2013. I just woke up from a dream where there was a party, everyone was having a good time . Part of the dream then was in my Mom’s bedroom at home and I could see my one sister In a beautiful outfit and everyone talking about my Mom. I could see myself crying in the dream and my sister saying to me, have you not cried enough about Mom to show her that you love her. I actually woke up sobbing which I haven’t really done and I’m feeling so sad. In the dream My parents had gone on a trip and I was so sad because I didn’t say goodbye. I come from a large family and we were all with my Mom when she passed away. Thank you for letting me share this with you. Patty

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Thank you for sharing your dream with everyone here Patty, and I am sorry to hear of your loss. Your dream helped bring those sobbing tears to the surface, and that’s such a good thing. You’re feeling the pain of the sadness, and touching that pain will help you to release it and begin your deeper goodbyes. How wonderful that you were able to be with your Mom when she passed.

      Jane Teresa

  3. Jana says:

    A week ago i woke up from a dream where i was crying and calling out ‘mom’. I dont remember what happened in my dream. Today i woke up when i was crying in my dream during my granfathers funeral. They were transporting his casket from sea to land right in front of our house. Our whole family is preparing and organizing everything for the funeral. I could only recall my mom and my aunty in this dream and also our church members awaiting for my grandfathers body transported from the ship in front of our house to land. I really dont know what these dreams mean and i really want to know what they mean please. My granpa died 11 years ago and my mom is living. As a matter of fact she just stopped here for a day on her trip to see my nieces surgery in another state. Could you please help me out with telling me about the meaning of these dreams? Thanks in advance

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Jana, Our dreams reflect the last 24-48 hours, so your dream was most likely processing something that you felt or discussed with your mom when she stopped over with you (or afterwards, when you were thinking back over her visit.) The part about your grandfather may reflect some new understanding about the family, or progress with grieving and loss even after all this time. However, dreams are always about us – not about the people in the dream – so your dream is about letting go of some grief, preparing to lay something (not someone) to rest in your own life.
      If you’d like me to look into your dream, you can consult me here: http://janeteresaanderson.com/consultations/
      Many blessings,
      Jane Teresa

  4. Griffin says:

    dream started kool but woke me up weird. I was chill in wit friends in like a group home living and then I get call sayin I have to be moved to different facility but I always had my dog I loved and raised since 2months. Now all of sudden in dream I’m in tha facilities ice rink and I hear over monitor “Griffin if your comming to tha door to say goodbye to your dog one last tyme” I started balling in tears but I woke up in tears. Cause history that my pup was takein from me or had to release her wit force. But why do I cry when that was about your ago I had her. Yes im always going to miss her but I thought I was healed from it.

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Griffin, Although you feel healed from the loss of your pup, your dream brings up a similar feeling of loss that you felt (or feared) in the day or two before your dream. There is a positive in your dream, as you are required to say goodbye ‘one last time’ and I feel you may be ready to ‘say goodbye’ – or close a chapter – in your life at the moment so that you can move on to something better. When we let go (say goodbye) we may feel the pain of the loss, or we may simply be releasing all the old pain that we’re ready to let go. Either way, once you’ve felt and released the pain of letting go, you can welcome the new.

      I hope this helps.
      Jane Teresa

  5. Edward says:

    Hi Jane, I have been troubled today about a vivid dream I had, and I wanted to counsel with you. I scheduled a power-nap of 15 minutes but ended up sleeping for an hour. I woke up totally disoriented not knowing the date and thought it was morning. This dream today bothered me soooo much that I’m lost and even angry because it is something I can’t find. It started with my family on a island getaway only for the richest and really nice, but suddenly I’m walking with a “made up” cousin accompanying her to her car (this person doesn’t exist in real life) and she grabs my hand and I felt so much love, protection and ease with her that I started crying and told her “I always wanted a sister like you”, she comfort me and got to her car which is a classic sports car hatchback where she jumps in through the trunk to go off to a party. I woke up by the phone ringing all desoriented. Writing this now I have my eyes in tears because I always wanted a person like this in my life and I feel I don’t have it or atleast not supportive like this the way I felt her. I’m trying to search for a person that I made me feel like this in the dream and I get frustrated because there’s no one that ever made me feel like this (that big brother protection and always have your back)

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Edward, It’s important to remember that everyone in a dream represents something about you (or a part of yourself that you’ve buried deep or feel unacquainted with). So the cousin represents “love, protection, and ease” that you connected with momentarily in the day or two before your dream. Rather than look in the outer world for someone like this, focus on connecting with and building this energy within yourself, so you can draw on it whenever you need. (Amazingly, once you do this, the waking life counterpart will often appear in life.) I can help you to understand your dream more deeply, and give you a dream alchemy exercise to do to help you make that connection:
      http://janeteresaanderson.com/consultations/

      Many Blessings,
      Jane Teresa

  6. Carolyn says:

    Hi jane, I had a dream last night and woke up sobbing. I dream of my papa who passed away 10 yrs ago. We were talking about Easter and my grandma who is living, and his truck was there, he told me he had to go and I woke up crying and couldn’t stop. I pretty much still crying as I think about it. I have only ever dreamed of him one time before and it wasn’t like this. I was like he was truly here and I didn’t want him to go. I was reading ur other articles and u were saying a dream reflects the last 24 to 48 hour. I haven’t spoke or thought of him in that period.

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Carolyn, It’s so amazing when a dream feels so real, isn’t it? Did your papa pass away close to Easter or Christmas ten years ago? It’s just a possibility that with Christmas so close you may be going through ‘family stuff’ that is bringing back memories and it may be this that triggered your dream. Otherwise, look back over that 24-48 hour period before your dream for feelings of ‘letting something go’ or ‘not wanting to go’ or ‘not wanting to let go’ of a feeling in your life. Somehow your papa represents something you don’t want to let go, but are also ready to let go. The tears are part of the letting go, the grief we always feel when we are ready to say goodbye to something in our lives in order to move ahead. What would your papa advise you if he were around now? Would that be good advice or not such good advice?
      If you’d like me to explore your dream deeply, you can book a consultation, but I hope this gives you a bit of help for now.
      Many blessings,
      Jane Teresa

  7. kushal says:

    hello jane..
    it happened with me second time today,i saw a dream where m in a temple..praying of well bieing of my family and suddendy i start crying looking at god and left the temple..and at the same time i open my eyes..its5:30 in the morning and i cried badly..please tell me what does this means..something good or bad ?

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Kushal, The dream is symbolic, so it’s not about the wellbeing of your family. Why did you cry in the dream? What thought made you sad in the dream? Tears – in a dream or on waking – are always good. Crying is a release of grief, of sadness. Sometimes tears simply come when understand something about ourselves, or when we’re ready to let go of a belief, a situation, or a person. Is your dream good or bad? You’d need to consult me to understand your dream (we would need to look at the details), but I can tell you that your dream is good, because it’s always good to cry a heavy burden into the lightness of sunshine after the rain.
      Many blessings,
      Jane Teresa

  8. Anna says:

    hi jane ok well a couple nights ago i had a dream about a boy my age (13) in a meadow he was waiting for me he took my hand and led me over to a tree i looked down and saw my school all burnt down his friends saw him and i holding hands so we ran away and they were chasing us yelling stop or something we ran into the school and into the chapel we stopped to take a breath as soon as our hands parted these men in white (they looked like docters) grabbed us and threw us into this bus and we drove all the way to my house were they through me out of the bus i only managed to say i love- when the threw me to the ground and slit my throat in my dream i opened my eyes and i was in the meadow with my kitten in my arms.Then i woke up with tears streaming down my face that day my kitten wasnt at the door my mum told me she had been found limp on the ground outside my house,dead also the boy looked so familiar and i was sure i was in love please what does this mean? it feels like a big empty hole in my heart
    Thanks

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Anna, Sorry to hear that your kitten has died. Sometimes we ‘tune in’ while we are dreaming to something that is happening at the same time, so it’s possible that you did tune in to your kitten’s death. That said, most of our dreams are NOT the result of tuning in, most dreams are symbolic, so people – and pets – are symbols of what is going on for us emotionally. The rest of your dream reflects feelings you’ve had about not being able to speak out about something. Have you been feeling a bit burned out (like the school in your dream) too? Make sure you’ve got someone to talk to about your feelings.

      To understand more about dreams and what they mean you might like to listen to some of the podcasts at this link:
      http://www.janeteresa.com/podcasts/

      Many Blessings,
      Jane Teresa

  9. Sydney says:

    Hello Jane ,

    Christmas day I took a nap while napping . I had a dream that I was in a store being tortured by people . The funny thing is in my dream I couldn’t see the peoples faces . However , what stood out to me was the fact my cousin was in the dream . In my dream she was fighting the same people who were torturing me . In the dream I seen them hitting her in the throat and her coughing . I wanted to save her but I couldn’t . Later on in my dream my mother and little sister came and got me from this store . While on my way out I’m being torched as I leave . However , my mom or sister can not see any of this happening to me . Once I finally get out the store I drop to my knees and start crying . While asleep I heard myself whimpering but all of a sudden my crying got intense but I couldn’t wake myself up. My mom and sister woke me up . I have never cried that intense in any of my dreams or even in my waking life .
    What could this mean ?

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Sydney, Our emotions are more intense in our dreams when we tend to repress them in waking life. So the more we try not to show – or not to talk about – our sadness or our anger, for example, the more we will feel intense sadness or anger in our dreams. It’s good to release these emotions while we are dreaming, but it’s also important to become more aware of these emotions while we are awake, so that we can understand ourselves more clearly (understand why we respond to certain situations in the way that we do).

      Christmas, with all the family together (or with some noticeably absent) can be emotionally challenging. Your dream shows you see yourself in your cousin. At some level you both feel ‘tortured’ (emotionally). An example is being so shy to speak up that you feel ‘tortured’ when required to do so. Look back over the day and ask yourself where you felt ‘emotionally tortured’. It is to do with speaking out as the pain is felt in the dream in the throat.

      To understand more about dreams and what they mean, listen to some of my podcasts:
      http://www.janeteresa.com/podcasts/

      Many blessings,
      Jane Teresa

  10. elton says:

    In a dream I saw myself explaining my condition to my elder brother how things were hard for me so he gave Me some money and I played my music for him… When I woke up from the dream I started crying…

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Elton, I’d need to know more about your dream to comment. It looks like you’ve recently started to value yourself and your skills (your music?) more highly, and the crying is the release you feel in acknowledging this.
      Jane Teresa

  11. bee says:

    Hi, Jane!
    I’ve been having bad dreams for a few months, but last night I woke up from crying in my sleep. Their all different dreams but basically about the same person. 4 years ago I broke up with my ex, he was a great person but had a cheating problem,I finally couldn’t take it any more so I decided to walk away.we had taken my brother in temporarily, so I begged him to not kick him out and I left the apt.. I couldn’t stay there with out him because I was still very much in love with him.. to my surprise he didn’t change like I thought he would. The following two years my brother and him went about like best friends, dating girls, going on vacations as if I never existed. It took a toll. Then out of no where we found each other again began working it out. Until I found out he was still talking to other women. I ignored him for a month and n heard he’s had a girlfriend. Now, two years after that I heard he’s engaged and b having a baby.. I still love him very much and I feel lost with out him in my life. I dream about him all the time and now I’m crying in my sleep to the point where I wake myself up. I don’t know how to forget him or emotionally move on.. it’s becoming such a problem that I’m considering taking medication for my depression. What should I do?

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Bee, I hear your pain, and I think it’s important for you to explore why you are finding it difficult to let go when it seems clear (from what you say here) that he wasn’t a suitable partner for you. You feel a sense of loss, and depression can be the emotion you feel when you feel that something is missing. The important thing is for you to explore that sense of loss, to validate it, to discover why you feel it so deeply (you may be very surprised to discover the real reason), and to ‘find’ what needs to be found to give you a sense of fulfillment. At one level you’re grieving the loss of the future you envisaged (marriage, baby? with this man), so it’s time to work through that grief so you can move forward. At another level it’s all about understanding why you’re attracted to this man (why you still feel you love him), and that’s the key that will set you free. Whether or not you decide to take medication, do choose a therapist who can help you heal your heart and mind. You might want to book an appointment with me:
      http://janeteresaanderson.com/consultations/phone-or-skype-consultation/

      Many Blessings,
      Jane Teresa

  12. Connor says:

    Maybe you can help me. I recently had my heart broken (about 2 weeks ago). As you can imagine I have been extremely sad lately. I would wake up crying and I assumed that was because of all the relationship stuff. But that stopped and now my dreams are… weird. Now a large number of my dreams are just replays of old memories. Good and bad. Not all of them relate to my recent relationship although many of them do. But they are so vivid and everything happens just like it did in real life, no crazy dreamland stuff. So now waking up back to reality is a struggle. If it’s a good memory I don’t want to let go. If it’s a bad memory of the girl I love I still don’t want to let go. Maybe it’s because I miss her. Please tell me what you think. I feel like I’m going crazy and I just don’t want to wake up and face reality. Thanks.

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Connor, You’ve diagnosed your own condition: not wanting to let go and not wanting to wake up and face reality, and that gives you something to begin working with. It’s good that your dreams are helping you to review the good and the bad memories. Perhaps you can begin by drawing up a list of the good things you’d like in your next relationship. Your dreams will be helping with processing the grief, showing you what you’re hanging onto (and why), so that you can move on to let go. If you’d like my professional help with understanding your dreams and letting go, you can consult me here:
      http://janeteresaanderson.com/consultations/
      Many blessings,
      Jane Teresa

  13. Connor says:

    Oh and just for some background info, she dumped me for her ex because she still had feelings for him. Meanwhile I’m over here helpless and heartbroken

  14. John says:

    I had a dream where no one in my family would play with me when I was young. Then when I went outside I was walking alone. I saw more kids who were feeling my pain of not having anyone to play with. Not even our parents. After I saw other kids I woke up crying

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi John, Thank you for your contribution to this thread. It sounds like you’re getting more in touch with painful feelings around being alone, or around feeling there’s not enough playfulness in your life today. Can you let more playfulness into your life now?
      Many blessings,
      Jane Teresa

  15. Hannah Wolverson says:

    Hi Jane

    I lost my Mother to cancer 18 years ago when I was 13 years old. I think I have dealt with it pretty well and I don’t think of her as often as used to and I don’t get upset when I talk about her. However, approx 3-4 times a year I have completely overwhelming dreams of her and i sob uncontrollably to the point where it wakes me up. The dreams are different but usually my Mom is alive and there is no pattern to the dreams, she is just there. Like I said I only get them a few times a year but I wake up crying. Have I not dealt with her death? I feel I have dealt with it quite well but now I’m wondering?

    Kind regards

    Hannah

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Hannah,

      The key is to look back over the last 24-48 hours each time you have this dream, as dreams reflect what has come up for us – consciously and unconsciously – during the two days before. My feeling is that you have dealt with her death, but not with missing having a mother, but I would have to look at your dreams and the details. Your mother may also be in your dreams to represent something about your own mothering, and any grief you feel around that. I’d really need to have a deep look into your dreams to help you. There are several ways you can consult me professionally:
      http://janeteresaanderson.com/consultations/
      Many Blessings,
      Jane Teresa

  16. Aimee says:

    I woke up crying last night from a very vivid dream. My husband and I were having a terrible fight where I suspected he was cheating on me. Throughout the dream I discovered he was cheating and when I confronted him he began to say horrible hurtful things that brought me to tears. I began to cry so hard that it woke me up in which I was still crying. I was so disoriented I couldn’t decipher reality from the dream for a few minutes. I haven’t experienced a recent trauma in fact I found out I am pregnant. Is this somehow related?

    • Aimee says:

      I forgot to add that this is not the first time I have dreamt this over the years. The details vary slightly but the plot remains the same and I always wake up crying and disoriented. Can you shed some light on these dreams?

      • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

        Hi Aimee, I have just replied to the first part of your post (see below). Dreams reflect the last 24-48 hours, so as this theme is recurring for you, it’s reflecting the same general issue that keeps coming up in waking life. If you have the dream again, look back over the last two days for extra clues. I think the article I suggested you read (in my reply to the first part of your post) will enlighten you about the basics.
        Many blessings,
        Jane Teresa

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Aimee, Congratulations on your pregnancy! You’ll find this article I wrote about cheating dreams reassuring and helpful: http://www.janeteresa.com/cheating-dreams/ Once you’ve read the article, you may be able to see a connection to your pregnancy yourself. You might want to book a consultation with me to discover more about your unique situation.
      Jane Teresa

  17. stonney says:

    Hi Jane. I found myself crying when I woke up today. I was so disturbed that I really had to google it, on what it means. Well, I dreamed about my mother. It was supposed to be a romantic dream. I was flirting with this cute guy. We were talking and he was about to give me a ride on a motorcycle cause I think I was living. Then I noticed my mother sitting in a corner. Her face was blank. She was just sitting there like she can’t see or hear anything. Well, I noticed her a while ago, but I didn’t give her my attention (I was surprised. I didn’t go to her directly) because I was busy flirting. So before my departure, I went to her and hugged her. And there is when I started crying. Was saying I miss her so much and that someday all of this will be over and we will be together again. And then I woke up. Crying.

    I understood my dream. It made me realize something cause I can relate it in my real life. I’ve never seen my mom since 4th grade (I’m in 3rd year college now) and we had an LDR for almost 9 years already. And sometimes, I get tired of talking with her on the phone/laptop via Skype maybe because I’ve been doing it for 9 years already. But then when I hugged her on my dream, it made me realize that she’s always been waiting for my attention all this time while I was so busy with other stuffs. I sent her a message right after I woke up. Telling her about my dream & how I miss her so much.

    I just hope this dream doesn’t mean anything about losing her or something like that. I’m scared & sad.

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Stonney,

      Thank you for sharing your dream and experience, your insight, and the action you took. What a wonderful outcome!

      No need to be scared and sad. Your dream isn’t a portent of losing your mother. It reflected that other sense of loss, the sense of losing touch with important people and feelings in life when your attention is on other stuff. Also make sure you ‘mother’ yourself: nurture and look after your own needs, especially when you are otherwise busy.

      Many blessings,

      Jane Teresa

  18. felicia b says:

    Hi. my name is felicia iv lived with my boyfriend for a year and last night he woke upcrying in tears doesnt remember his dream abd that has happend before also a few other times. our relatiobship is normal we each hurt eachother one time but its the past. i dont know why he wud be waking up in tears. Were both 19 . What cud be some reasons for this. i hate worrying aboit whats going on in his head. were both very happy together

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Felicia,

      He is crying because he is releasing sadness in his dreams. If he remembered these dreams, they would give some insight. For yourself, stop worrying about what’s ‘going on in his head’ if you’re very happy together. Just make sure he knows that you’re there for him if ever he wants to talk about what’s on his mind and in his heart: that’s what a good relationship is all about, don’t you think?

      Many blessings,

      Jane Teresa

  19. Houston says:

    Hey Jan,

    So last night I woke up crying like crazy. I couldn’t stop. I can’t even remember the dream. But later that night when I fell back to sleep I dreamt that my best friend had died. I woke up feeling horrible this morning. I’m just confused. Me an him are so close. I would be lost if he died. I was just trying to see if you could help me figure this out ASAP.?! Thank You.

  20. Evelyn says:

    I was my same age as now, in the dream but my look, dress, hair, was in the past, Edwardian? turn of 19th into 20th century? early 20th? I looked a bit like a modified Gibson girl. I had returned to my parents’ house with was large, beautiful porch with windows on the seaside. still Greek family. lol I think I had not been there in a very long time since my fiance had died.
    My parents set me up in my room, suggested I go to the beach, I saw the beach and I remembered and broke out into weeping. I remembered chasing my fiance through the neighborhood, slipping in and out of places…we were laughing…having fun…and then we went to the seaside. He dove into the water and I went in after him (but I’m not a diver, more cautious). near some rocks/reef…he did not come up again. I couldn’t find him or save him.

    I don’t know what happened, the dream didn’t show me exactly but he died even though he was a great swimmer. Being there, looking at the sea brought it all back. My parents, my mom, my uncle Paul, tried to make me feel better. I put on an old robe I wore years ago, I remembered how it used to be more voluminous but now is more tight on my figure…I gained weight since then although I was not fat in the present of the dream.

    I opened the door of the porch and looked at the birds outside in the garden, a kind of strange fluffy chicken which was cream with spots…I saw an attractive man down at the beach with some friends…I thought it was time for me to go and see if I could meet him.
    My parents encouraged me to go out there, to the sea, and I decided to go…I dont’ remember why, maybe just to catch attention or to move on, I went to where my engagement ring and wedding ring where stored and I put the engagement ring (which was beautiful) on my middle finger. I accidentally put on the wedding ring as well and I turned to go put it back but heard these twin men show up at our door looking for me to go out with them, my parents motioned me to stop and hide. I should note their friends were trying to test out my situation to see if they should send any eligible sons my way.

    I dropped to the floor, of the foyer to the outside door (the other was a side door), beautiful glass windows along the foyer with rich wood trim. They left thank goodness. I put the ring back and headed out.

    I woke up with some tears in my eyes but I actually feel pretty good emotionally. I’ve been out of a long term relationship for coming on to 2 years now and am single. Kind of a dream out of nowhere for me.

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Evelyn,

      Thank you for sharing your dream, which I think you already know is about coming to terms with the past (that reference to the past, to the 19th or 20th century may refer to when you were 19 or 20) letting go and moving on, but with a sense of freedom. There’s a lot more in your dream that I can help you with if you’d like to book a consultation (given that this is a ‘dream out of nowhere’ for you).

      You might also enjoy this blog about past life dreams:
      http://www.janeteresa.com/can-you-dream-of-past-lives/

      Consultations:
      http://janeteresaanderson.com/consultations/

      Many blessings,

      Jane Teresa

  21. Ricardo says:

    Hi Jane

    I had this dream when I was a child that I will never forget to this day and I cant find a meaning for it , i hope u could help me. All I remember is I was crying heavily, because I could feel what was going to happen, and my father was smoking in front of me very relaxed. He then takes a puff and blows out the smoke and throws his cigarette at me and sets me completely in flames I was screaming and jumping around trying to put it out. I remember thinking why are u doing this to me. I woke up screaming, crying and I was having a panic attack before my mother ran into the room. i was around 5 at the time.

    Hope u can help :)

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Ricardo, Thank you for contributing your dream. It must have been a very frightening experience for you as a five year old as you would have been too young to appreciate that dreams are symbolic. It looks like you were feeling “burned” emotionally by something in the day or two before the dream. Perhaps someone – maybe your father – got angry with you. In your dream you were crying because you had a feeling that something painful was going to happen. As a five year old you were probably pretty good at anticipating people losing their temper around you.

      Jane Teresa

  22. unanimous j says:

    I woke up crying today for the first time in y life. I remember dreaming. I was sitting at a table in my house with a few people (not relatives) who kept saying things like ‘yeah and I forgot to buy shampoo’ then after a long pause id hear my fathers voice sturnly saying ‘ yeah like when I tell u the washer is dirty and u forget to put ur dishes in it’ and the girls at the table would talk some more saying something like ‘ I can’t believe this person yada yada yada’ and again id hear my dad say ‘i can’t believe imm the only one that does sh** around here’ . In my dream I felt angry, I felt like crying. But I don’t cry infront of people so naturally (even in the dream) I held back but the next second I was awake and could tell I had been crying and still was uncontrollably. But why would this dream cause such a reaction. Iv had far worse dreams, actual nightmares but this is the first time iv woke up in the midst of sobbing. .

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Unanimous,

      A good question. Your nightmares probably focus more on fear and related emotions (helplessness, despair etc), rather than anger and grief. In this dream there’s such a contrast between the everyday mundane chit-chat (keeping the conversation light and superficial) and the deep resentment and hurt (voiced by the father character in the dream). As you say, you don’t cry in front of people, so it’s possible you tend to hold your emotions – anger, grief among them – deep inside where they may fester into resentment if left unaddressed. Your crying is coming from a deep place, so deep you didn’t even really know it was there (but it would have been festering and affecting your life). It’s good to release it. Sometimes it’s ok to go beyond superficial. Here’s a podcast that may help:
      http://www.janeteresa.com/episode-148-the-dream-show-intense-emotions-in-dreams/

      Many blessings,

      Jane Teresa

  23. KT says:

    I dreamt that I was driving a car on the highway and missed my exit so I went on to get of on the next exit and it was a bridge and there was a break in the bridge and I couldn’t stop in time and I fell and crashed to the road below and before I died I saw two ladies in another car that I’ve never seen before and I was looking at them wanting them to help me out of the car and they just looked at me with disgust and then the car blew up and I died and then I was in my house crying looking for my mom but it was a different house but when I found my mom I woke up and I was sobbing and couldn’t stop crying for about 20 min and everytime I think about it I start to cry but I don’t know why.. My boyfriend is going to prison next month on the 9th I thought maybe that could be the trigger but I also thought maybe it’s because I have a drug problem and i am suppose to enter into a program to get clean in a couple days… But I don’t know how any of that ties to my dream? Any insight would be appreciated because this was not normal for me. Thank you

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi KT,

      Thank you for posting your dream. It can be most helpful to look at everyone and everything (and every feeling) in a dream as being about you – the dreamer. Remember too that dreams process your experiences of the last couple of days. In the dream you wanted help (from the two ladies) but all you got was disgust. At some level, you may (wrongly) judge yourself as being not worthy of help. You may (wrongly) judge yourself with disgust for missing an opportunity (missing the exit). Have you missed a previous opportunity to ‘exit’ drugs? Could you be holding back from going through the program because you (wrongly) feel disgust for your situation? You’re experiencing some major challenges in your life right now – the program and your boyfriend’s prison sentence. Your dream has put you in touch with your grief (your sobbing and crying), and although that is painful for you, it’s a good place to start. Crying, working through the grief, is the beginning of the way up and through. It’s never too late to ‘take the right road’, to allow your tears, and to give yourself the love and help you deserve.

      Many blessings,
      Jane Teresa

      • KT says:

        Hi its KT again, thank you for replying. All of that makes so much sense now. I have tried previous times to get off drugs but failed and disappointed many people in the process. The next day or technically the same day march 13th, U.S. marshalls came and arrested my boyfriend on another crime and arrested me for questioning, they let me go 12 hrs later but kept him so no I will never see him again besides behind a glass window.. and tonight I woke up crying again(2nd time in a week, andthis has never happened before) mmaking me feel like something bad is going to happen today just like it did the other day.. but in this dream I was with my mom and dad and brother(my dad died when I was 11 and my brother was shot when I was 16 but is still alive with many problems) and I was young(I’m 21 now) I was in my car seat and my brother was being mean to me so I started to cry and then woke up crying, my dad visits me in my dreams once a month but I’ve never been young in them and woke up crying.. what could all this mean? Sorry if it is a bit confusing.. it sure confused me.

        • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

          Hi KT, Thank you for replying, and sorry to hear about the tough stuff you’re experiencing right now. Please be assured that your crying dream is NOT a prediction of another difficult day. Take a deep breath and remember that your dream – like all dreams – is all about you, just wrapped in symbolic language. You related to my previous reply, so focus on that: it’s never to late to be kind to yourself and get clean because you deserve to have a fresh start. My feeling is that this second dream is already onto this: your brother was being mean to you in the dream (and you cried). Everyone in a dream represents something about you: a part of yourself is being mean to you, and you’re ready to release your grief about this. There’s a lot of healing about to begin, isn’t there – your dad, what happened to your brother, your boyfriend? In the first dream, all you needed to do (to stop the calamities) was take the right road. When you’re ready KT, isn’t that right road getting clean? You say that you’ve tried previous times to get off drugs and failed and “disappointed many people” in the process. I wouldn’t be worrying about how other people felt, or about disappointing other people. Getting clean to make other people happy sounds like a recipe for failure to me. Do this – when you’re ready – for yourself, not for anyone else. I have a feeling that if you do this for yourself – and out of kindness for yourself – you’ll get a different result this time. Worth a try?

          Many blessings,

          Jane Teresa

  24. Jeffrey Sharp says:

    Ms. Jane…

    This morning, without any clues on why, i woke up crying. It has really disturbed me through out my day mainly because I have no clue or reason on why I would wake up this way. I dont recall anything in my dreams last nite, nor do I have any ideas on why this would happen. This is the first time in almost 6 years that this has happened to me. I know there have been personal issues with my wife I been trying to deal with about her on-line ‘girlfriend’ but I dont know if that has any effect on what happened. Please let me know what you think. Any assistance would be greatly appreciated.

    Thank you for your time Ms. Jane.

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Jeffrey,

      Everyone dreams every night, it’s just that we don’t always remember them. My thought is that the crying was a result of the emotion you felt in a dream, but you haven’t remembered the dream. Dreams reflect our conscious and unconscious experiences of the last day or two (our dreams are processing our experiences, trying to solve issues, sort through emotions and so on: http://www.janeteresa.com/about/about-dreams/). You mention personal issues (which sound upsetting) so my feeling is that your dreams were processing these issues, and releasing some grief (the tears). The most helpful thing I can suggest is that dreams can help us trace back an emotion to an earlier event in our lives, and it can be very healing to explore this. For example, if you take the main feeling you have about your wife’s online activity (betrayal, abandonment, something else?), then your dream may have been taking you back to the first time this emotion came up for you, and your tears may be the beginning of your release of that long ago hurt. Once we can find that original hurt, understand it, put it in context, and be kind to ourselves, we gain new perspective on the current day issue (wife’s online activity) and become clearer on how to handle it.

      I hope this helps.

      Many blessings,

      Jane Teresa

  25. Jane says:

    Hello Jane, i just woke up profusely crying in my dream to my real life with tears and shouting that called my husband’s attention. I got admission into the university, after paying my acceptance fee, we couldn’t raise the money i needed to pay my registration fee. So i decided that i wil forget the admission, but it was the hardest decision to take, i cried everyday for accepting to forget the admssion. Just when i’m trying to overcome it, i had a dream that i was in the school, lectures are going on but i couldn’t participate because i didn’t do registration, i saw myself walking in front different departments just shedding tears. When i was asked, i told the people that i couldn’t do my registration, so they suggested that i should go and see the officials incharge and write undertaken, they will allow me to go on with my studies until i’m able to pay the fee. But when i explained to my husband in the presence of my sister, both of them started making fun of me. It pained me so much that i cried in my dream till i woke still crying profusely with tears all over my face. Even as i type i still feel like crying more. What do i do?

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Jane,

      Thank you for contributing your dream and the background. You may not have been able to raise the registration fee this time round, but I’m sure you will find a way because this disappointment has shown you just how much you want to do this university course. And that’s where I believe your dream comes in. In waking life you cried your grief and began the process of letting go, which is the best thing to do. Only after letting go can you sometimes see a new way forward, and your dream begins to bring up some insights about some unconscious negative beliefs that may otherwise block your way. In the dream, your husband and sister were making fun of your intention. Dreams are never what they seem, and your dream is not about your husband and sister themselves, it’s all about you. This article will help you to understand what they represent in your dream http://www.janeteresa.com/dreaming-of-people-you-know-a-checklist/

      You were processing some deeper grief about not being taken seriously in your dream.

      Many blessings,

      Jane Teresa

  26. Derek says:

    Hello Jane,
    I have been having dreams where I have been waking up crying. The most recent one was I was standing in a room filled with people, it took place in the middvil times. It was loud in the room but I noticed a small child, a child who was dressed in a little white robe. The child seemed to have progeria. He started to speak but I couldn’t understand him. I picked him up and he continued to speak but I couldn’t understand. His eyes began to look sad and I began to feel sad too. I then felt the urge to hug the child and tell them I love you. When I hugged the child and told them that I love them they buried their head into my neck and said in the cutest voice “I love you.” I began to cry and than woke up. Even sharing this dream brings tears to my eyes and I couldn’t stop crying when I was remembering the dream.

    Surprisingly, I looked online for some explanation and came across this article. I still can’t figure out when and what may have happened to me at a young age. But I have had many other dreams where I woke up crying. Its been happening a lot more frequently after my 2nd divorce.

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Derek,

      Thank you for contributing your poignant dream. Dreams reflect the last 1-2 days, so noticing that crying has been happening more frequently since your second divorce suggests that you may be working through grief triggered by your second divorce but most likely originating in childhood.

      I notice that you say you can’t figure out what may have happened to you at a young age, and sometimes it’s not so much what happened to us as how we felt at the time. You saw your dream child as possibly having progeria, so he may symbolise a part of yourself that had to grow up fast (be responsible, not much play) – and you’re now reaching down into your being (into your past) and connected with this part that has been stunted, in a way. As a child there may have been a time when you couldn’t communicate your emotions (had to be responsible), so you learned not to. Until now. In your dream you connect with this aspect and extend love – loving yourself back then and today, letting go of your grief over past losses.

      Medieval may be symbolic of your own ‘middle ages’, but if you’d like to explore all of this you might like to book a consultation so we can go deep.

      Hope this helps.

      Many blessings,

      Jane Teresa

  27. Derek says:

    Sorry, I meant medieval

  28. Caitlynnn says:

    Hello!
    Last night I woke up crying from a dream. I remember finding a puppy in the city lost so I picked it up and we had a nice time! Then I found the owner and I had to give her away and I know she wanted to come back to me because she was wriggling to jump back to me.
    Recently I just bought a puppy with my boyfriend, would this relate? I’m worried that it’s just a dream and I started crying and woke up (it’s happened a few times throughout my life). Could it also relate to how my mother would give away dogs when I was younger so I was never attached? Could it just be my emotions from trauma when I was younger? I had a tough childhood.

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Caitlyn, I think you’re onto it. Dreams reflect your experiences of the last 1-2 days, and these often resonate with similar experiences from the past. I probably wouldn’t say your crying was “just” from the emotions you experienced when you were younger. They were big and powerful emotions, and although I’m sure you’ve done some work on healing some of the trauma from your childhood, your dream suggests you may still be processing feelings of loss. So yes, having the puppy in your life now may be calling up your fears that you’ll have to give up (the love the puppy inspires), that it’s somehow wrong to allow yourself to be attached, or that love (and being loved) has been confused with attachment.

      It’s good that you cried in the dream, as this suggests you are in touch with the sense of loss in your childhood, and that is step one in letting it go. Once the grief is acknowledged (more than “just”) and released, you are free to know that you can keep your new puppy – and enjoy the love you’ve found – for keeps.

      These are my responses to your post, to really comment on your dream I would need to know the full details and talk with you. If you’d like to do that, you can book a consultation here:
      http://janeteresaanderson.com/consultations/

      Many blessings,

      Jane Teresa

  29. Shruthi says:

    Hi Jane,

    I had this dream where i was crying. It was so painful that I used to wake up because of my own sobs as I was crying out loud while sleeping. I could feel that I was crying out loud but I used to slip back to that very dream every time I thought i would wake up and cry more. Does this mean something? I don’t want anyone to know that I’m crying in my dreams. How to stop it from coming out loud?

    Thank you.

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Shruthi,

      I wonder why you don’t want anyone to know you’re crying in your dreams. It could be that your anxiety about crying aloud in your dreams is actually causing the repeats. The way to stop crying out loud is to first try to understand your dream. Remember that dreams reflect the last day or two, so whenever this happens, think back over the last two days and ask yourself if you felt sad (if you felt some emotional pain), or if you tried to hold back on showing your upset. If you can identify that situation – even if you find it difficult to interpret the dream – find someone you trust to share your feelings. (If you don’t feel comfortable talking with friends or family, look for a counselor or guidance figure, someone you can trust.) Simply talking about your feelings with someone you trust will begin to lighten your heart and this will probably stop you from crying aloud in your dreams. Or consider booking a consultation with me so that I can help you to understand the dream and give you an exercise to help change the dream and stop the crying. (The exercise depends on the dream which is why you’d need to book so we can go into it properly.)

      Many blessings,

      Jane Teresa

  30. Shai says:

    Hi jane
    I had a dream about my new boyfriend that has left me hurt sad and slightly heart broken, I remember all of it and remember being angry in my dream but maybe you can understand it a bit better. I was walking home and when I got there I went to go to my room but my boyfriend was sitting on the stairs outside of my door with and ex best friend and he said “I haven’t have the chance to grive for Olivia and I don’t know what to do” the girl said to him “don’t worry about it if you need to grive you can come to mine for a couple of days” hearing this I got annoyed so I put in my headphones and walked up to them then it flashes forward a couple of days and we was at the hospital and he came up to me and asked what’s wrong but I snapped and said “we are going to hospital of I knew what was wrong we wouldn’t be here” he could see I was upset and angry so he hugged me and gave me a kiss so I asked him if he could tell me anything or did he have something to tell me good or bad but he said no and called me silly but I knew he was lying because I heard he talk to Jodie and then I shouted at him and asked for the truth but I could feel my heart breaking as I shouted and he again denied it so I told him I knew about Olivia but I woke up before he answer and just burst into tears as he was leaving for work but I want to talk to him about he but he won’t listen he will just say it’s a dream and that it means nothing.

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Shai,

      Dreams are not what they seem, they’re symbolic. When you dream about your boyfriend (or anyone), your dreaming mind makes up the storyline, speaks the words. So your boyfriend is not responsible for how you see him in a dream or for what he says or does in a dream. You’re not tuning into him and dreaming about what’s actually happening for him. It can be so difficult to understand this, especially when you feel such strong emotions in a dream.

      Each person’s dream is unique, but here’s an article I wrote about ‘cheating dreams’ that will help you to understand:
      http://www.janeteresa.com/cheating-dreams/

      Many blessings,

      Jane Teresa

  31. Mark says:

    Hi Jane,

    I usually never discuss my dreams with anyone; exploration and meaning I search for within. However, last night I had a dream so vivid,emotional,and unlike any other in my 25 years in this life, that I will compelled to share it; to ask your opinion of it…

    My dream started in a bowling alley;a game I’ve loved since age 2. I used to call it “knock em’s” and would play with my grandmother-she had passed in 1998 following a bout with cancer. She always used to tell me that thunder was the angels bowling in heaven.

    Anyway,my cousins and I were bowling and my aunt asked me for a copy of a book which I said I could try to get but could not promise her; an answer to which she freaked out and left. Since I was incredibly frustrated by the situation, I ran out and disappeared.

    Now comes the compelling part. I sat down on a bench and started to read the news. There was a story about some machine being able to bring a lost loved one back for a little while. Then, as I look to my left, my grandfather was sitting next to me (my grandfather died in 1998 when I was 12. My heart sunk; I was completely speechless; lost in a whirlwind of emotion. All I could do was give him the most intense hug I had ever given anyone. There was so much I wanted to say to him but I didn’t know what to say; where to begin. He looked at me and smiled. But what I noticed was that it was a smile so beautiful that it was one I had never seen in this life; a smile which calmed every negative fear I had ever had; that I will ever have. With gentle eyes he held out his hand and said, “Come with me; I want to show you something…”

    Next thing I know, we are in my grandfather’s house (which had been knocked down over a decade ago). It was exactly how I remembered it with one exception. Again, it didn’t seem of this world and to describe it as “perfect” would be an incredible understatement. Everything had perfect color; a perfect atmosphere. Here there was no judgment, no negativity, no wrong. Everything had a sparkling goldish tint to it. It was a place I had been a thousand times but Also had never been before; something inside told me I was not in the world I had been before. My grandfather and I walked around his house and, honestly, I couldn’t bring myself to do much of anything but hug him.

    We didn’t say too much physically, but in this place, everything was said simply by touch and smile. Then, I stated sobbing, telling my grandfather I was so sorry for everything I ever did; that I loved him beyond words. But it bothered me when he just looked at me confused with a smirk on his face. Again, I became frusterated. He asked me what was wrong? I began to sob saying you’re here now and I don’t wasn’t you to go again. I want this to last forever. He gently smiled and hugged me; a feeling for which I cannot seem to find the words; a warmth that (no lie) I had NEVER EVER felt before. Then he looked at me and said, “I am here always, I never really left. This place is perfect. I love you. We will see each other again soon; you have to go back for now. But I love you, Mark. I’ll be here waiting. Soon. Very soon.”

    Next thing I know, Im waking up sobbing. I’m sobbing just thinking about the dream. It sounds stupid but it was so real; unlike anything I had ever experienced; a visit to a place I would return to I. A heartbeat if I could.

    What could this mean?

    -Mark

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Mark,

      Thank you for contributing your beautiful dream, so compellingly told.

      On the one hand, we can, at times, connect with the greater sense of all that is (whether you call that the greater sense of yourself, heaven, all-that-is, the divine), and find that words cannot convey the experience. When this happens while we are dreaming, our dreaming mind makes its best effort at describing the sensation, drawing on past experiences such as loved ones we have lost, or our explorations of spirituality. Yours may have been such a dream, particularly because you experienced a love beyond words, and words seemed insufficient. You may have stepped beyond the issues you mention such as forgiveness, and everything being perfect when viewed from a spiritual perspective.

      On the other hand, your dream may have been simply reflecting the last couple of days – as all dreams do – and exploring these same themes. Look back over the last couple of days: did these same questions of forgiveness, non-judgement, and so on come up for you? Before the compelling part, your aunt wanted something from you that you couldn’t promise, which left you frustrated. Was there a similar situation (from your perspective) around the time of both your grandparents’ deaths? And was there a similar situation – perhaps on a lighter level – in the day or two before the dream?

      These are some starting points Mark. You might like to book a consultation to explore this deeply with me. Either way, you can always return – within your mind/soul – to touch this dream experience whenever you need to connect with it. It’s always there, a part of your heartbeat, when you know how to look.

      Many blessings,

      Jane Teresa

  32. nate says:

    Hi. I’m 15 and about 30 minutes ago, I woke up crying about my Guido (grandpa). Our relationship is exactly how it is said on this website. I am grieving a lot but not showing it. And in my dream, I broke my finger and went to the doctors. The doctor was all weird and so just left then my Guido came in the room. He said “why haven’t you called me yet?” in real life, that’s what’s going on with me and him, then I said “I’ll call monday” today is Saturday. Then he kept going on about it then I had no answer left “in the dream”. So all my family members came in and they seemed like ghosts like they didn’t even care or hear what me and my Guido was talking about to me (sorta in real life too) so I started crying in the dream and flipped a table in front of me.Then I woke up crying thinking about it. Then I looked at my Jesus icon and said “see.see. This is how hard I have it. This is why I’m always so stressed.” and things along the line of that. Then I had an immediate thought. That he died. And I said “no.no.it can’t be.” and it felt so real and I started crying even harder. What does this mean. I really hope it is not what I think happend.

    • Jane Teresa Anderson says:

      Hi Nate, Maybe your waking thought (that your Guido had died) was a natural reaction to thinking about him after having your dream. You must have been thinking about how, in the storyline of the dream, you keep avoiding calling him, and feeling the grief around this, and it’s natural to then maybe think ‘what if he died and I never had the opportunity to call?’ So maybe you can call him anyway?

      My feeling is that the dream did not occur because your Guido died. In your dream you released some of your grief and perhaps also some of your anger (in flipping that table), and that’s a good thing (to do in the dream). You know you’re stressed, and stress is not good! In the very least, find yourself some space and quiet time to cry, to grieve, and to think about finding someone you can trust to talk about the things that get you angry and stress you – this will help reduce your stress. What is the most positive thing your Guido would advise you to do? Would his advice be good and worth following, or not so good?

      Another thing you might like to do is to write your Guido a letter – (an old fashioned letter). You don’t have to mail it, but it will help you feel a lot better and you might be quite surprised at what you write.

      Many blessings,
      Jane Teresa

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