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Camouflage and the facts of life

Camouflage and the facts of life

I was looking through the window, settling into blog-writing mode while watching the play of sunlight and shade move across a particularly beautiful rock, when I realised that part of the rock wasn’t rock at all. It was a large, sunbathing, frilled lizard.

I tried shifting my gaze in an effort to blend him back into rock, but I couldn’t do it. Camouflaged one instant, revealed forever the next. My world shifted. The rock solid fact of the rock was shattered in an instant. What I had known to be true was no longer true, and there was no going back to the old way of seeing and believing it.

Yes, it’s only a rock. Yes, it’s only a frilled lizard. But it’s a true story, or, at least, it is until the next unexpected revelation.

“Look, there!” I imagine saying to someone else, “There, on that rock. It’s a frilled lizard!” And some will see it, and some won’t. Camouflage is a good trick, finely honed by nature to protect through deception.

The lizard has scuttled away now, and the rock itself will never be the same again in my personal little world because I’ll always see it now as the lizard rock, and the rock that found its way into this blog. And so things change.

I was at a party last weekend where a group of us were enjoying a free ranging conversation when someone piped up, “But what are the facts? I’m only interested in the facts!”

"But what are the facts?" This kind of thinking always reminds me of butter and margarine.

“But what are the facts?” This kind of thinking always reminds me of butter and margarine.

This kind of thinking always reminds me of butter and margarine. When I was a child, butter was suddenly declared unhealthy due to its saturated fats. We switched to margarine, a healthy choice based on science, we believed. A few years later, margarine was declared unhealthy due to many factors, and we switched back to butter. You know the story. It happens all the time now, and not only in matters of health and nutrition. If I were to dream of butter or margarine, I’d probably be processing dilemmas around perception, what – and who – to believe. Or saturated facts.

In fact, the fact is, many facts change, and facts can get us into as much trouble as they can also help us out.

One of the most enlightening fact-finding missions you can embark upon is to explore your dreams.

One of the most enlightening fact-finding missions you can embark upon is to explore your dreams.

One of the most enlightening fact-finding missions you can embark upon is to explore your dreams. Your dreams don’t yield universal facts. They yield personal facts – your personal beliefs about the world based on your experience of it. Best of all, your dreams yield your unconscious personal beliefs, the ‘facts of life’ that unconsciously drive the way you see your life and the way you live it.

Discovering your personal unconscious facts of life helps you to understand why you see life in the way that you do, why you respond to life in the way that you do, why you experience life in the way that you do. Once you become aware of your unconscious facts of life, the camouflage drops away, and you see yourself and your life in a new way. You may feel, looking back, that you have been deceived by those unconscious beliefs. Yes, yes, and yes, but be kind to yourself because you put them in place to protect yourself from dangers that once felt real.

As I said earlier, camouflage is a good trick, finely honed by nature to protect through deception.

Facts change

Facts change. A sign at Manly Library, viral on Twitter, Photo: @Dane_Murray

(I took a five minute break there to stretch and make a cup of tea before reviewing what I had written. I flicked to the news screen at the same time, and this title jumped out at me: “When fact becomes fiction”. It’s the story about an Australian library that tongue-in-cheek proposed to move Lance Armstrong’s non-fiction books to the fiction section following “the disgraced cyclist’s own confession that his inspirational story is a lie”. I’ll leave you to ponder the context.)

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Episode 134 The Dream Show: Alchemy for all seasons

Alchemy for all seasons

You’ve heard a lot from me about the healing power of dream alchemy, but can alchemy techniques be used for healing or personal development outside the realm of symbolic dreams?

To set the scene and remind you what dream alchemy is, there’s the story of a dream alchemy visualisation I did for one of my dreams many years ago, with powerful results. Then we move on to explore how dream alchemy can be used to treat PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) sufferers whose flashbacks occur as literal-replay nightmares.

The Dream Show, a free monthly podcast with Jane Teresa AndersonFinally we look at using alchemy practices beyond the world of dreams. Instead of working with your unique dream symbols to reprogram specific unconscious beliefs, waking life alchemy, carefully created to suit individual needs, helps shift limiting unconscious perspectives. Waking life alchemy is something I’ve developed and offered in The Compass, and use regularly with my mentoring clients. In this episode, I give you a taste of waking life alchemy, a recipe you can take and apply to your situation. Let me know what results you get!

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(Ahem, although you’ll hear me announce this episode as Episode 135, it’s not. It’s 134. We only noticed when it was too late, all packaged and complete for you to enjoy.)

(Our next show, episode 135, will be released in four weeks, on 8 February 2013.)

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Post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) nightmares: a cure?

Post traumatic stress disorder PTSD nightmares

Are dreams always symbolic? What about recurring nightmares in which the dreamer relives an actual traumatic experience, over and over again, sometimes several times a week, often for decades? This can be the case for people with PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder, a type of anxiety disorder following a traumatic experience). How can these replay nightmares be stopped? Can dream alchemy be applied to transform these kinds of nightmares and their underlying issues?

Nightmares following traumas are generally symbolic, seemingly unconnected to the actual event, but exact replays are more common for people with PTSD.

Nightmares following traumas are generally symbolic, seemingly unconnected to the actual event, but exact replays are more common for people with PTSD.

Nightmares disrupt sleep, leaving you tired the next day, as well as stressed about the scary nightmare and what it might mean about you and your life. Magnify that to exhaustion when you have the nightmares several times a week, compounded with daily anxiety about going to sleep and facing yet another replay of the long-ago trauma, and a sense of hopelessness about not being able to stop the nightmares: that’s what many people with PTSD suffer year after year.

On top of that, many suffering these types of nightmares can punch, kick, and hit their bed partners, adding to bedtime anxiety. When dreams occur in the REM stage of sleep, ‘sleep paralysis’ stops our muscles from acting out our dreams, but the kinds of nightmares associated with PTSD sometimes occur in other stages of the sleep cycle when legs and arms are free to move.

Nightmares following traumas are generally symbolic, seemingly unconnected to the actual event, but exact replays are more common for people with PTSD. So what is PTSD?

Diagnosis of PTSD references three main symptoms enduring more than 30 days after the event: reliving a traumatic event in a way that disturbs your daily life; feeling emotionally numb or detached from the trauma; and increased arousal in everyday situations.

Reliving may mean having flashbacks where the trauma seems to be happening again, recurring nightmares about the event, repeating memories, and strong reactions to things that remind you of the experience.

Feeling emotionally numb or detached from the trauma can manifest as not caring about anything, a lack of interest in everyday life, and avoiding anything connected with the event, as well as not being able to remember key details of the trauma.

Increased arousal due to PTSD can include being startled easily and having exaggerated responses, being hypervigilant, having difficulty concentrating, outbursts of anger or irritability, and difficulties sleeping.

Each sensory reliving embeds the trauma.

Each sensory reliving embeds the trauma.

The danger of experiencing replays of the trauma, whether by nightmares, flashbacks, or repeating memories, is that these tend to be overwhelmingly sensory in nature, as if they are happening in the present tense. They are not so much thoughts about the event, or feelings that can be eased by considering context. Each sensory reliving embeds the trauma.

The standard treatment for PTSD usually involves cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), which helps the sufferer to identify thoughts stemming from the trauma and replace them with less upsetting thoughts. CBT retrains the conscious brain to change perspective and response to situations that would otherwise trigger negative reactions. When CBT is effective with PTSD sufferers, nightmares featuring actual replay tend to stop, soften, or recur less often.

So CBT works with the conscious mind to reframe thoughts about the event.

The unconscious mind may persist with unconscious beliefs, feelings, and responses associated with the traumatic event.

The unconscious mind may persist with unconscious beliefs, feelings, and responses associated with the traumatic event.

The unconscious mind may persist with unconscious beliefs, feelings, and responses associated with the traumatic event. In this case, the nightmares – or other, more symbolic nightmares – will continue, and underlying issues stemming from the trauma may remain unresolved.

So can PTSD related nightmares be stopped when standard CBT fails to achieve this?

One treatment that is receiving a lot of attention at the moment is Imagery Rehearsal Therapy (IRT). Now, if you’re acquainted with dream alchemy, IRT is going to look familiar to you.

IRT involves rewriting the trauma-replay dream to change the trauma story, and repeatedly visualising the new, positive version, while awake.

IRT involves rewriting the trauma-replay dream to change the trauma story, and repeatedly visualising the new, positive version, while awake.

In IRT, the sufferer thinks up ways to change the storyline of their nightmare so it’s no longer scary. With help from the therapist, they decide on the best rewrite of the dream and then replay the new version of the dream as a visualisation – while awake – a set number of times. This therapy stops the nightmare in many cases, or reduces how often it occurs.

What’s the difference between dream alchemy and IRT?

IRT involves rewriting the trauma-replay dream to change the trauma story, and repeatedly visualising the new, positive version, while awake.

Dream alchemy involves understanding the dream (interpreting it when it is symbolic), identifying the unconscious beliefs (sometimes based on traumatic experiences) that underlie the key issue, and rewriting either the whole dream or an aspect of it in a way that reprograms those unconscious beliefs into positive beliefs that automatically drive positive responses. The new version is repeatedly visualised*, while awake.

IRT reprograms the conscious mind and the dream storyline. The dreamer either dreams the new storyline or the replay dream stops. Deeper unconscious issues related to the trauma may be reflected in more symbolic ongoing nightmares and dreams, and remain unaddressed.

Dream alchemy addresses and resolves issues by transforming the underlying unconscious beliefs.

Dream alchemy addresses and resolves issues by transforming the underlying unconscious beliefs.

Dream alchemy reprograms both the conscious and unconscious mind and these changes are reflected in new, positive dreams. Dream alchemy addresses and resolves issues by transforming the underlying unconscious beliefs.

When therapies such as CBT or IRT assist sufferers to overcome PTSD and stop the trauma-replay nightmares, grief associated with the trauma may naturally resolve. When grief remains, or when unconscious beliefs related to the grief have taken hold (beliefs around perceived guilt, for example), these will be reflected in subsequent symbolic dreams. For those who remember their dreams, dream alchemy is a route to resolution and healing.

* Dream alchemy may be prescribed as a visualisation, affirmation, artwork, writing, bodywork, or other modality, depending on the dream and the dreamer.

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