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Hole in the road

His father's voice would always sing out from the back of his mind, 'There was I, a-digging this 'ole'.

His father’s voice would always sing out from the back of his mind, ‘There was I, a-digging this ‘ole’.

Out driving recently, we slowed down to pass road works. Orange witches’ hats marked off a hole in the centre of the road. Intrepid road workers were jack-hammering their way, waist deep in rubble, ear deep in mind numbing noise.

“You know,” Michael began, “whenever we passed road works when we were children, Dad would always sing, ‘There was I, a-digging this ‘ole, ‘ole in the ground sort of big and sort of round …’. And I would vow never to be as predictable and repetitive when I grew up.”

“And you’ve succeeded,” I replied, “I’ve never heard you burst into song and we’ve passed plenty of road works in our life together.”

“Yes and no,” Michael cringed. “I may not sing  but I’ve never passed a road works without hearing my father’s voice striking up from the back of my mind, ‘There was I, a-digging this ‘ole’. He just won’t go away!”

We can drive on past the hole in the road without bursting into song ... but what about the holes we can't see?

We can drive on past the hole in the road without bursting into song … but what about the holes we can’t see?

We can laugh about these perpetual voices that echo on from our past. Parents, teachers, priests and school bullies, for example, often leave their mark. All the while we are aware of them we can shrug our shoulders and smile. We can drive on past the hole in the road without bursting into song, talk to our children without old-fashioned admonishment, and be assertive without fear of the school bully hurting us.

But what about the echoes we are not aware of? Deep in your unconscious mind are the records of every conversation, event and experience you have lived through carefully filed alongside the feelings these evoked in you. These experiences and feelings have shaped your life, even though you do not remember them. They form a blueprint, a pattern that exerts an influence on how you respond to the world. They may be unconscious patterns, but that fact alone makes them far more powerful than the patterns you are consciously aware of. The hole in the road you know about is not a problem. You won’t fall into it. But the very real hole in the road you are NOT conscious of is a danger.

How does this relate to dreams?

Dreams are reflections of both your unconscious and conscious minds, with special highlights on the conflicts between the two. When you know how to cut through the language of your dreams and interpret them, you can understand the blueprint patterns that are still operating in your life. Your dreams bring to light what is usually hidden to your waking eyes. Your dreams reveal the holes in the road, how they got there, and how they are affecting your waking life today. What powerful information!

"Money doesn't grow on trees", she said, speaking without thinking her own mother's echoing words which were also her grandmother's.

“Money doesn’t grow on trees”, she said, speaking without thinking her own mother’s echoing words which were also her grandmother’s.

For example, you may have forgotten the day when the other kids in your street were given money to buy ice creams from the ice cream van, but your mother didn’t have the change. She told you, “Money doesn’t grow on trees”, speaking without thinking her own mother’s echoing words which were also her grandmother’s. She didn’t realise you were the only kid in the street to miss out, and she certainly didn’t know the others taunted you about it for weeks.

As a five year old you felt deeply hurt, by the other kids and by your mother. You mistakenly learned that money was available to other people but not to you. When a deep feeling is associated with a belief (remember that children’s feelings are big) the belief is all the more strongly anchored. The child, in this example, grew up and forgot the incident, but his unconscious mind remembered and dug a huge hole in the road. As an adult, he wondered why he encountered difficulties with self-esteem and self-value. He didn’t know that his unconscious mind had established a belief pattern that he was less worthy of reward than others.

The problem is that the unconscious mind is far more powerful than the conscious mind, so its blueprint wins over conscious mind ideals, thoughts and goals.

Those plans you have that seem to keep misfiring are most likely overpowered by your unconscious beliefs in holes in the road and other perceived pitfalls and dangers. Your unconscious mind will sabotage realisation of your plans to ‘save’ you from such fates.

The solution? Change the blueprint.

This is easily done once you can interpret your dreams. There are various techniques (dream alchemy practices) that use the symbols of your unique dreams to change your unconscious blueprint.

Let your dreams enable you to build a smooth road forward, splendidly lit by diamonds gathered from the deepest pitfalls that once lined your route.

Let your dreams enable you to build a smooth road forward, splendidly lit by diamonds gathered from the deepest pitfalls that once lined your route.

Think of the process as mending the holes in the road so that you can make smoother and faster progress. You can’t remove a hole. The way to mend it is to fill it in. You can’t simply remove an unconscious belief; you need to fill the hole it occupied with a new, more appropriate belief. Dream alchemy practices are designed to do this.

But first, dream alchemy encourages you to look deep into the hole your dreams have revealed, for the best gems and treasures are discovered by mining deep into the earth, deep into the self.

Let your dreams enable you to build a smooth road forward, splendidly lit by diamonds gathered from the deepest pitfalls that once lined your route.

[Copyright Jane Teresa Anderson, March 2003. First published as a Dream Sight article.]

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Dream vibrations and the LOA

I am often asked about the Law of Attraction, and whether nightmares and dreams with negative vibes attract negative people and events into our lives. It’s a good question. So, let’s explore:

Books about the Law of Attraction have enjoyed waves of popularity since the early 1900s

Books about the Law of Attraction have enjoyed waves of popularity since the early 1900s

Books about the Law of Attraction have enjoyed waves of popularity since the early 1900s, with a recent resurgence in the early 1990s and a deluge of interest since 2000. Rhonda Byrne’s ‘The Secret’ DVD and book, published in 2006, repackaged the Law of Attraction in a way that inspired millions of people to start making the LOA – as it is now commonly known – help them achieve their goals. So, what is the LOA, exactly?

According to the LOA, you receive according to the vibe you give out. Like vibes attract like vibes. If your focus on money is all positive you attract plenty of it into your life, whereas if your focus on money is negative (for example, if you focus on debt or lack of money), then you attract debt or lack into your life. According to the law, whatever you focus on, you get more of the same.

The LOA is working all the time, whether you believe in it or not. I know this to be true. The secret everyone is searching for is how to become an active participant in the process – how to create and maintain the vibe that brings you what you want.

Imagine you know that secret, and you put all your waking hours into maintaining the vibe that will bring you what you want, and then you go to sleep and have a dream ...

Imagine you know that secret, and you put all your waking hours into maintaining the vibe that will bring you what you want, and then you go to sleep and have a dream …

Imagine you know that secret, and you put all your waking hours into maintaining the vibe that will bring you what you want, and then you go to sleep and have a dream brimming with negative emotions, perhaps grief, anger or loss of confidence. Does the negative vibe of your dream beam out into the universe and undo all that daytime work?

Here’s where the magic of working with your dreams comes in. If you really want the LOA to work for you, then pay attention to your dreams. First up, there are a few basics you need to know:

1. Remember that dreams are symbolic, not literal. So if you dream that someone you know dies, your dream is NOT predicting that person’s death. The dream is symbolic and it is about something that is ending (dying off) in your life. Dreams of death are very common, and many people are frightened to mention them because they fear that putting the dream into words, or paying it attention, will cause it to happen. Please be assured that this is not the way it works. In fact, not talking about a worrying dream increases your waking life anxiety – and this affects your vibe. It’s better to talk about a worrying dream, interpret it, understand more about yourself as a result, and move on, free of any negative vibe. In this example, once you understand what is coming to an end in your life, you can decide to bring it back to life or to let it go and move on to something better. Interpretation brings you self understanding and choice.

2. The emotions you feel in your dreams are emotions that belong to you. Sometimes they’re emotions you’re aware of; most often they’re unconscious emotions that you’ve buried long ago, or emotions you’ve repressed because you can’t acknowledge them in your waking life.

3. In the same way, the beliefs, limitations and blocks you encounter in your dreams are your own unconscious beliefs, limitations and blocks.

4. So, when you interpret a dream, you discover your unconscious emotions, beliefs, limitations and blocks.

Whether you’re awake or asleep, your unconscious mind continuously sends out its vibe.

Whether you’re awake or asleep, your unconscious mind continuously sends out its vibe.

Now here’s the most important thing to understand. Whether you’re awake or asleep, your unconscious mind continuously sends out its vibe. And your unconscious mind is far more powerful than your conscious mind.

For example, you might choose to focus on sending out a positive vibe about money all day. You spend all day doing this, feeling totally positive and good about it. As far as you are aware, you have absolutely no block to having vast amounts of money in your life. However, your unconscious mind may have a different agenda. You may have unconscious doubts, limiting beliefs and blocks about having so much money. Because your unconscious mind is stronger than your conscious mind, it wins in the battle of the vibes. You don’t see the results you wanted and you declare the LOA to be a crock. But it isn’t! The LOA is working for you perfectly. Your overall vibe, dictated by your unconscious mind, is attracting according to the law. You are receiving according to the vibe you are giving out.

The real secret to getting the Law of Attraction to bring you what you consciously want is to get your unconscious mind on side.

If you want the LOA to work for you, pay attention to your dreams.

If you want the LOA to work for you, pay attention to your dreams.

So rather than ask if a worrying dream is sending out a negative vibe, attracting negative things to you, celebrate the fact that being able to remember your dream is the first step to identifying a negative vibe that your unconscious mind is sending out while you are awake, a negative vibe of which you are oblivious, a negative vibe that is attracting negative stuff to you.

You dream every night, and a dream has a vibe whether or not your remember it. Learning to remember your dreams and interpret them is an empowering step to take if you’re serious about attracting what you want into your life.

Dream interpretation identifies your unconscious beliefs, so you can easily pick the ones that are working against your conscious wishes. The next question is, how do you change those unconscious beliefs to align them to your conscious wishes?

This is done through the process of dream alchemy. These are simple exercises such as visualisations and affirmations that reprogram your unconscious beliefs. Here’s an example:

You dream you are driving a car but you can’t see ahead clearly because the windscreen is dark. This is a common dream indicating that you are unclear about your vision for your future. This lack of clarity is the work of an unconscious block sabotaging your vision. To apply dream alchemy when you wake up, visualise yourself back in the dream only this time the windscreen is exceptionally clear and you can see your way. Visualise yourself driving well, and add in all the positive emotions you associate with achieving your goal. Doing the dream alchemy practice – the visualisation – undoes the block and reprograms the associated unconscious belief in alignment with your conscious intention. (Do a dream alchemy visualisation 20 times a day for a week, ten times a day for the second week and twice a day for the next month.)

So tune into your dreams to tune those unconscious negative vibes that you are beaming out 24/7 into positive vibes that ensure that the Law of Attraction fulfils your conscious desires.

[Copyright Jane Teresa Anderson, April 2009. First published in longer version as a Dream Sight article.]

[You can listen to this article in episode 33 The Dream Show.]

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Reveal your saboteur

Tom and Kim both dreamed they were running late for their plane.

Tom and Kim both dreamed they were running late for their plane.

Imagine that both Tom and Kim had the same dream. Each dreamed he was on his way to the airport to fly to another city for a work meeting when he realised he had left his ticket at home. He wondered whether he had time to go back home and get his ticket, or whether he would miss the plane. The dream ended there. What does it mean?

The in-depth interpretation depends on how Tom and Kim each felt in their dream, and this applies to most dream interpretations.

Tom felt excited by the challenge.

Tom felt excited by the challenge.

Tom felt panicked by the delay, and then excited by the challenge. The adrenalin rush of racing back home to get the ticket in time to catch the plane would put him on a high that would energise him right through the meeting, and impress his work colleagues with his ‘can do’, risk-taking, adventurous approach.

Kim felt relieved and took the afternoon off.

Kim felt relieved and took the afternoon off.

Kim felt immediately relieved. He was off the hook with a perfect excuse. Forgetting his ticket meant he didn’t have to face his colleagues. He fleetingly wondered whether he had forgotten his ticket accidentally-on-purpose, but dismissed the thought as soon as he realised he could now spend the afternoon relaxing and playing golf.

Tom and Kim’s dreams were about why they have been experiencing delays in achieving their goals. Both dreams reveal a saboteur element: both Tom and Kim are creating the very delays that daily despair them. “Why,” they each moan, “does life keep blocking me?”

Tom craves praise for achieving against the odds.

As you can see by examining their dream feelings, Tom loves the thrill of an obstacle course and believes the challenge of the added difficulties gives him a performance edge and wins him praise.

He unconsciously creates delays to experience a high because he believes he needs the rush to perform, and craves praise for achieving against the odds.

Kim creates delays to safeguard himself from pressure.

Kim creates delays to safeguard himself from pressure.

 

 

Kim, on the other hand, fears achieving his goals or facing up to his abilities, whether or not he’s equal to the task.

He unconsciously creates delays to safeguard him from this pressure, though he won’t admit this to anyone – including himself – in daily life. Sometimes he catches a glimpse of his modus operandi, but then swings denial into place deftly with his golf clubs.

Here’s the tip. When you write out a dream, add your feelings. Make sure you don’t write about how you would feel if this happened to you in waking life. Write the feelings you felt while you were in the dream. Then highlight the feeling words, and link them together in the same order to form a flow.

For example, Tom’s would read: panicked -> excited -> high -> energised -> impressive -> risky -> adventurous.

Kim’s would read: relieved-> excused-> dismissive->relaxed.

Do this for your dreams, and ask where this pattern is playing out in your life. You will see your life in quite a different light. Once you are aware of this pattern, you have the power to change it.

[Extract from 101 Dream Interpretation Tips, Jane Teresa Anderson]

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Driven

What drives you to get out of bed in the morning?

What drives you to get out of bed in the morning?

What drives you to get out of bed in the morning? Hunger for food, a full bladder, a sense of duty, a need to earn money, a passion for your work, your baby’s cry, fear of being late for work, hunger for success, a sense of adventure?

Before reading on, have a think about all the things that get you moving during a typical day. As well as some of the above, perhaps you are driven by love, sex, exercise, chocolate, alcohol, drugs, helping others, a need for order, curiosity, a wish to learn, friendship, self-improvement, high drama, a need to impress, to be right, to feel valued, to set a score, to atone, to hide, to be seen.

Take a moment to list the top ten things that drive you through a typical day. Write them down.

It’s easy to see how your drives affect how you act each day. Hunger drives you to find and eat food. Thirst drives you to reprioritise all other plans while you find and drink fluid of some kind. A caffeine addiction drives you to plan your morning around the required number of coffee, tea or coke hits. A need to be right drives you to argue the point instead of negotiating a win-win situation or learning something new. If you’re driven to help others, you may avoid asking for help. If you’re driven by a sense of adventure, you’ll take risks, and if you’re driven by a need for high drama to keep life interesting you’ll stir it up good.

All of this is easy to understand. Our drives ultimately dictate our actions, and our actions dictate the outcomes of our lives.

STOP RIGHT THERE!

It’s all well and good to acknowledge what drives you and to see how it affects the way you go about your life, but what about those drives you DON’T know about? Your unconscious drives – those deeply embedded beyond your awareness – have a strong grip of the wheel. In any battle between the drives you know about (your conscious drives) and your unconscious drives, the unconscious wins.

Imagine, for example, feeling driven to succeed in your career – making all the right moves, getting excited about the prospects, heading for the right goals – yet having a conflicting unconscious drive to avoid commitments of all kinds, including commitment to career. In this scenario you’re likely to wonder why things never quite succeed in the way you imagined, why unforeseen circumstance seems to conspire against you at the last moment, why ‘bad luck’ seems to dog you, and why, if you listen very carefully, you hear a whisper of relief at the back of your mind as you think, ‘Ah well, at least I’m free to ….’

This is where dreams come in.

And in a simple, easy to interpret way too.

The driver represents a driving force in your life

The driver represents a driving force in your life

Have you ever dreamed of being in a car, in the passenger or back seat, with someone else driving? It’s a common dream. The person driving the car – the person driving you somewhere – represents a driving force in your life at the time of the dream.

It’s usually a car. We ‘drive’ cars, and, as dreams often use word play, cars can symbolise your drive or motivation. The person behind the wheel symbolises the prime driving force. However your driving force might be driving any vehicle in your dream, or driving an animal – either riding it or shepherding it.

If you dream of being driven by someone you know, your father perhaps, then ask yourself if you’re driven by your father’s expectations, or by the kinds of beliefs your father subscribed to. And remember, we’re talking unconscious drives here, so you may think you’re very different from your father, but if your father’s driving you in your dreams, then there’s an aspect of your father driving you deep in your unconscious. Once you think about this possibility and examine your life for evidence of its effect, you’ll see it. That’s the way you catch an unconscious drive – getting the clue from a dream and then collecting the evidence from your waking life. You can then decide whether this drive is working for you or against you, and disable it if you wish.

As soon as you’re aware of an unconscious drive, it’s no longer unconscious, so it loses its power. From that point forward you can observe the way you respond in life and question the driving force behind your response. For enduring results you can apply dream alchemy practices.

When interpreting a driving dream, write down three words to describe the personality or approach of the person driving your dream vehicle. For example, if Jack (an acquaintance of yours) is driving your car, you might write ‘proud, dutiful, reliable’. Ask yourself if, at the time of your dream, your actions may have been driven by pride, duty or reliability. (It’s likely to be at least one of the three on your list.) Look for evidence in your life, especially in the day or two before your dream. What actions did you take that could be explained by pride, duty or reliability?

What if your dream car is driven by someone you don’t know in waking life? Your dream driver’s character will have been evident in the dream by the actions taken, the way you were treated, or the gut feel you got from the person. For example, if your dream driver seemed really helpful – perhaps even over-the-top helpful – then it’s likely that you were driven by an unconscious need to help at the time of your dream. In this example, if the dream worked out well, then all is good, but if the dream did not work out well, or remained unresolved, then ask yourself why you’re driven to help others and why this might not be ‘getting you anywhere’.

If your driver isn’t getting you anywhere in your dream, then that drive isn’t getting you anywhere in your life.

Your dream driver might take you back to your past ...

Your dream driver might take you back to your past …

Your dream driver might take you back to the past – perhaps your school days, somewhere you used to work or live. This often indicates the origin of the drive.

We think of drive as a positive thing. It’s good to have drive, to be motivated. But we can be driven by negative as well as positive factors. We can be driven by greed, by a need to dominate, by a need to avoid a feeling or issue. We can be driven to prove ourselves to someone, to sabotage our plans to avoid the things we think success will bring, to appease, to suffer the pain we think we deserve.

There’s a difference between driving and being driven, but is there a difference between having drive and being driven? Maybe, maybe not, but I can guarantee that if you take this question and contemplate it today, you’ll be wiser by the bedtime and set up to dream of drives yet to be revealed.

[Copyright Jane Teresa Anderson, March 2008. First published as a Dream Sight article.]

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