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Camouflage and the facts of life

Camouflage and the facts of life

I was looking through the window, settling into blog-writing mode while watching the play of sunlight and shade move across a particularly beautiful rock, when I realised that part of the rock wasn’t rock at all. It was a large, sunbathing, frilled lizard.

I tried shifting my gaze in an effort to blend him back into rock, but I couldn’t do it. Camouflaged one instant, revealed forever the next. My world shifted. The rock solid fact of the rock was shattered in an instant. What I had known to be true was no longer true, and there was no going back to the old way of seeing and believing it.

Yes, it’s only a rock. Yes, it’s only a frilled lizard. But it’s a true story, or, at least, it is until the next unexpected revelation.

“Look, there!” I imagine saying to someone else, “There, on that rock. It’s a frilled lizard!” And some will see it, and some won’t. Camouflage is a good trick, finely honed by nature to protect through deception.

The lizard has scuttled away now, and the rock itself will never be the same again in my personal little world because I’ll always see it now as the lizard rock, and the rock that found its way into this blog. And so things change.

I was at a party last weekend where a group of us were enjoying a free ranging conversation when someone piped up, “But what are the facts? I’m only interested in the facts!”

"But what are the facts?" This kind of thinking always reminds me of butter and margarine.

“But what are the facts?” This kind of thinking always reminds me of butter and margarine.

This kind of thinking always reminds me of butter and margarine. When I was a child, butter was suddenly declared unhealthy due to its saturated fats. We switched to margarine, a healthy choice based on science, we believed. A few years later, margarine was declared unhealthy due to many factors, and we switched back to butter. You know the story. It happens all the time now, and not only in matters of health and nutrition. If I were to dream of butter or margarine, I’d probably be processing dilemmas around perception, what – and who – to believe. Or saturated facts.

In fact, the fact is, many facts change, and facts can get us into as much trouble as they can also help us out.

One of the most enlightening fact-finding missions you can embark upon is to explore your dreams.

One of the most enlightening fact-finding missions you can embark upon is to explore your dreams.

One of the most enlightening fact-finding missions you can embark upon is to explore your dreams. Your dreams don’t yield universal facts. They yield personal facts – your personal beliefs about the world based on your experience of it. Best of all, your dreams yield your unconscious personal beliefs, the ‘facts of life’ that unconsciously drive the way you see your life and the way you live it.

Discovering your personal unconscious facts of life helps you to understand why you see life in the way that you do, why you respond to life in the way that you do, why you experience life in the way that you do. Once you become aware of your unconscious facts of life, the camouflage drops away, and you see yourself and your life in a new way. You may feel, looking back, that you have been deceived by those unconscious beliefs. Yes, yes, and yes, but be kind to yourself because you put them in place to protect yourself from dangers that once felt real.

As I said earlier, camouflage is a good trick, finely honed by nature to protect through deception.

Facts change

Facts change. A sign at Manly Library, viral on Twitter, Photo: @Dane_Murray

(I took a five minute break there to stretch and make a cup of tea before reviewing what I had written. I flicked to the news screen at the same time, and this title jumped out at me: “When fact becomes fiction”. It’s the story about an Australian library that tongue-in-cheek proposed to move Lance Armstrong’s non-fiction books to the fiction section following “the disgraced cyclist’s own confession that his inspirational story is a lie”. I’ll leave you to ponder the context.)

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Samsara Alchemy

Samsara Alchemy

I saw the movie Samsara yesterday, and awoke this morning with a New Year alchemy idea for you to do. I’ve called it Samsara Alchemy, and as I type those words something deep within jumps to attention and formulates a concept for a book by that title, so I take a note to self.

In Sanskrit, Samsara means continuous flow, the repeating cycle of birth, life, death, and rebirth – impermanence, the ever turning wheel of life. Samsara, the movie, (directed by Ron Fricke and produced by Mark Magidson), is a visual meditation on this theme, filmed over more than four years across twenty-five countries and five continents.

According to the Samsara website, the movie “explores the wonders of our world from the mundane to the miraculous, looking into the unfathomable reaches of man’s spirituality and the human experience. Neither a traditional documentary nor a travelogue, Samsara takes the form of a nonverbal, guided meditation.”

The best way to enjoy the movie is to immerse yourself in its flow, to suspend (or at least quieten) the intellect’s need for information, location, and details. Flowing frees your mind and allows you to experience a Buddhist perspective of life’s dramas.

Samsara movie mursi tribesgirlSome of the images are confronting – death, destruction, factory farming – while others are heart-achingly beautiful. Recurring close ups of eyes staring unmoving into the camera – or the camera staring deeply into eyes – interplay with panoramic bird’s eye views of the startling patterns we create as we move through life.

A favourite for me was the recurring theme of watching the sun move through a building or landscape, throwing patterns of shadows and light, followed by moonlit shadows and the passage of starry heavens before rebirth into morning light.

Samsara movie Mecca Ramadan

Mecca Ramadan

Patterns, patterns, recurring patterns, up close and grandly sweeping, patterns, patterns, recurring patterns, life, death, rebirth, continuous flow, Samsara.

Does Samsara speak to you of circles or spirals? Do you see a pattern of evolution, or devolution, within the grand recurring patterning of life (a spiral), or do you see one ever-repeating cycle, always returning to the same place (a circle), though perhaps seeing it with different eyes?

The countdown begins. Those of us who follow the western calendar are living the last day or two (give or take time zones) of 2012, about to mark the end of the old year and greet the birth of the new. Instead of writing New Year resolutions, I encourage you to immerse yourself in a Samsara Alchemy. This is what to do:

Samsara Alchemy

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Begin by sitting quietly, perhaps after a meditation, and let some images come to you from your personal life during 2012. Write down the images that come to you. They might be obvious (the big events, both highs and lows), or they might surprise you (an image of a forgotten event or experience). Review your list. Make sure you have a mix of highs and lows, and a mix of mundane and unusual. Make sure your list includes some dilemmas you encountered during the year as well as some insights and epiphanies you recall.

If this seems difficult, begin again. Remember that Samsara means flow. Let it flow. Don’t approach this logically. Let images come to you.

If you enjoy words, simply take a piece of paper (as big or as small as you like), and write a single word for each image or thought that came to you. For the images that had a big impact on you, write the words in big letters, and for the images which were less impactful at the time, write the words in smaller letters. (Think of tag clouds on blog posts.) Arrange your words anywhere on your paper, at random, all over the place, or in a pattern. When you’ve finished, step back from the snapshot picture of your life in 2012, and let it speak to you.

If you enjoy art, create an artwork from your collection of 2012 images. Draw, paint, sculpt, collage, or choose any medium, then step back from your remembered vision of 2012, and let it speak to you anew.

Samsara movie babyThe idea of this alchemy is to borrow the vision of the Samsara filmmakers to create a meditation on (to paraphrase the filmmakers) “the wonders of your personal world during 2012, from the mundane to the miraculous, looking into the unfathomable reaches of your spirituality and your human experience”. Your picture will help you to see and appreciate life’s continuous flow, the repeating cycle of birth, life, death, and rebirth. As you step into 2013, consider how this perspective can assist you in choosing what you birth, or rebirth, and how you flow, as you begin a new cycle of life.

(All images are stills from the movie.)
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Episode 132 The Dream Show: Open your eyes

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Open your eyes

Isn’t it interesting that when we see something new, we first try to fit it with what we already know? Our tendency is to categorise this with that, to file today’s experiences to fit in with yesterday’s, to make sense of our world by making it connect with the picture we have been building, day by day, since birth.

Then along come certain events or experiences that just don’t fit – or we can’t find ways to fit them into our commonsense picture of the world. What then?

The Dream Show, a free monthly podcast with Jane Teresa AndersonThis month’s episode of The Dream Show looks at our blind spots, gives examples of how to identify these in our dreams, and explores opening our eyes to new ways of seeing the world.

One of the main functions of our dreams is to process our experiences in ways that help us to make sense of our world. We each build our unique picture of the world, of what makes sense to us based on our unique life experiences. So many different world views, mostly overlapping to some degree, gift us so many opportunities to learn from other people’s perspectives – and sometimes our dreaming minds add new brushstrokes to our picture instead of editing to fit the same-old, same-old, same-old rut.

Enjoy this light-hearted but serious dip into the science and mystery of making sense of life.

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Rainbow shades of grey

Rainbow shades of grey

“Why do we dream in black and white?” It’s a question I’m often asked, and it always makes me smile. “We don’t,” I reply. “You don’t remember noticing colours in your dreams, so you assume you dream in black and white. And shades of grey. But now you know you can dream in colour, you will.”

Within days – or nights – such dreamers excitedly report colours. A flash of red, perhaps, or a golden sunset, then a sudden rush of colourful details until the dream is as colourful as waking life or perhaps even vibrantly supersaturated, super surreal.

Yet in another sense, we do tend to dream in black and white, the black and white of opposites. Risk and safety for example.

Yet in another sense, we do tend to dream in black and white, the black and white of opposites. Risk and safety for example.

Yet in another sense, we do tend to dream in black and white, the black and white of opposites.

Look closely at most dreams and you will see at least one pair of opposites. A dream might feature good and evil, risk and safety, crowded and alone, deep and shallow, new and old, faith and doubt, the black and white – the either or – of issues that conflict us.

Are you a black and white thinker? Do you see the world in black and white, right and wrong, good and evil? Do I hear a resounding ‘no’? But look deeper, and especially look at those pairs of opposites offered on a platter in your dreams. A dream theme peppered with risk and safety suggests you may – at least unconsciously – look at risk and safety as mutually exclusive alternatives, black and white, no shades of grey. Perhaps you see life as frighteningly risky so you run for certain safety, or you see life as suffocatingly safe so you choose the high adventure of risk. No shades of grey.

When you find your black and white blind spot, ask yourself who, in your early life, influenced your perspective. Continuing the example, you’ll probably find at least one parent or guardian valued risk to the exclusion of safety, or safety to the exclusion of risk, and you either followed suit and took on the same values, or you retaliated in fear to occupy the opposite position. Your current values reflect your beliefs – about risk and safety in this example – and those beliefs are often based on your emotional experiences.

When you are awake to your dreams, you can choose to begin the healing work of finding a balance point between opposites – the Tao, the ‘middle path’.

This deep work involves recognising your shadow (what you see as bad, the black to your white).

This deep work involves recognising your shadow (what you see as bad, the black to your white).

This deep work begins not with a decision to simply walk the middle path between black and white, but to explore and heal the origin of your beliefs and the emotions that cemented them in black and white. It involves recognising your shadow (what you see as bad, the black to your white), the shadowy urge to take risks which must be repressed in the name of supreme safety, or the shadowy urge to stay safe which must be repressed in the name of adventurous risk. It involves understanding and embracing your shadow, loving that part of yourself, integrating it into your being instead of banishing it from your kingdom, and when you do this, the black and white of your staunchly upheld perspective gives way to an infinity of possibilities etched in far more than fifty shades of grey. Or colour. Why live in grey when you can live in colour?

When you know that you can dream in colour, you do. When you know that you can live in colour, you do.

I prefer to take poetic licence and see a rainbow spectrum of brilliant colours between black and white.

I prefer to take poetic licence and see a rainbow spectrum of brilliant colours between black and white.

I’m not really one for shades of grey. I prefer to take poetic licence and see a rainbow spectrum of brilliant colours between black and white. It feels more intuitively correct.

Think of the font colour menu in Microsoft Word: black at the top left leading through a range of colours to white at the bottom right.

Scientifically speaking, white light contains all the rainbow colours mixed together (you only see the rainbow when you shine white light through a glass prism, or when sunlight gets refracted by raindrops), and black is the absence of all colour. But look again. Scientifically speaking, black pigment is made up from different coloured dyes, and white pigment is generally the absence of coloured pigment.

Step through and beyond the rainbow into a world rich in colour.

Step through and beyond the rainbow into a world rich in colour.

Let’s leave the physics and semantics of black and white, and, while we’re at it, the spelling of grey or gray, colour or color, licence or license, and delve into the poetic heart of the matter.

Let your dreams help you to drop your veils of black and white, and to step through and beyond the rainbow into a world rich in colour.

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How to change the world through your dreams

How to change the world through your dreams

When you’re dreaming, you think the dream is for real, don’t you? When you wake up, you’re surprised to find that your dream didn’t happen. When you’re awake, you know that you also experience a dream reality, but when you’re asleep, you don’t know that you also experience a waking reality. The dream is it, your total reality, while you’re in it.

Might you one day wake up from waking life and discover it too was a kind of dream?

Might you one day wake up from waking life and discover it too was a kind of dream?

Does this thought ever make you question your waking reality? It should. How real is waking life if dreaming life, while you’re in it, also seems real?

Might you one day wake up from waking life and discover it too was a kind of dream?

Your experience of waking life is a result of how you see it: both how you choose to see life, and how your personal unconscious mind sees it. We all look at life from our own personal perspectives. We all experience the same world from different angles. We all process and interpret the world we live in according to our beliefs, attitudes, and previous experiences.

So how real is the waking world you experience? Is it a kind of dream? You decide. It’s definitely a kind of illusion, isn’t it? It’s your illusion, and you can change it at any point by changing the way you see it.

Dream interpretation helps you to understand and see through your illusions.

Dream interpretation helps you to understand and see through your illusions.

Dream interpretation helps you to understand and see through your own illusions. In this way, dream interpretation helps you to change your waking world. The tip here is that the best way to change the world is to start with your dreams. As you get to understand yourself deeply, you start to see how the world can become a better place, and how you can play your part in its transformation. Begin with learning how to interpret your dreams.

[Extract from 101 Dream Interpretation Tips, Jane Teresa Anderson]

(The images I’ve chosen for this blog are from the movie Waking Life (2001), directed by Richard Linklater, a must-see if you haven’t already.)

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Works like magic every Thursday morning.

I have just watched a rather self-satisfied dog scare away a noisy garbage truck, as only he knows how – a volley of gruff barking and a telepathic “get off my patch or else” warning. Works like magic every Thursday morning.

That’s the dog’s experience anyway. That’s how he reads the situation, I imagine, judging by the look on his face and the wag on his tail as he returns to the business of snoozing the morning away. Little does he know the truck driver can’t even hear him above the grinding crunch of the truck’s innards beating a street’s worth of garbage into submission.

Her method never failed.

Her method never failed.

A cat I once knew had an even better magic trick. If she sat and looked at the front door in a particularly focused way, it opened. Her method never failed. Sometimes it took a little longer to achieve, perhaps – I imagined she thought – when the wind was blowing the wrong way and she needed to still her focus more. Little did she know that whenever I noticed her sitting, staring down the door, I’d reach out and open it for her. She was too intent on performing her magic trick to notice me.

We’re much better than animals at knowing what’s going on, aren’t we? We learn from our experiences, test our theories, get consistent results. We understand life and how it works, don’t we?

Are we just as blind to the hand that really opens the door?

Are we just as blind to the hand that really opens the door?

Or are we just as blind to the hand that really opens the door, to what’s really going on behind the scenes of our conscious awareness?

That’s where dream interpretation helps. It allows us to see the bigger picture, to understand why we interpret – or misinterpret – our experiences in the way we do, why we see the world in the way we do.

So next time you’re busy making a big drama to scare an intruder off your patch, or wondering why doors aren’t opening for you in the way that they used to, look into your dreams to discover what’s really going on. That’s the power of dreams.

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A bunch of fives

In one eight-hour sleep, you have about five dreams, whether or not you remember them all.  The good news is that all the dreams you have in one night usually address the same issue, so if you start with the one that seems easiest to interpret, you can identify the theme, and then see if it applies to the others.

If you start with the one that seems easiest to interpret, you can identify the theme.

If you start with the one that seems easiest to interpret, you can identify the theme.

For example, you might be struggling financially and, after a particularly difficult day, your dreaming mind sets out to process your issues about money.

The first dream of the night might look at this from an emotional point of view, perhaps showing you ‘up to your neck’ in water, almost drowning in tears.

The second dream might look at this from an historic perspective, reminding you of past events and experiences that have shaped your approach to finances.

The third dream might look at how you’re coping from a practical point of view, perhaps showing you propping yourself up (with loans or distractions) whenever the ground feels unstable.

The fourth dream might get creative, looking for possible solutions to your present crisis, and so on.

You can magnify this insight if you explore the other dreams of the same night.

You can magnify this insight if you explore the other dreams of the same night.

As you can see, any one dream on a night gives you excellent insight into any issue, but you can magnify this insight if you explore the other dreams of the same night. If you only ever remember one dream, don’t worry. You’re not missing out. That one dream provides insight, and there will be other dreams on other nights. It’s a good idea to watch a run of dreams over a period of days, or even weeks, before making a big decision, to allow the opportunity to gather a range and depth of insights.

Do you enjoy doing crosswords? If so, you’ll probably have noticed that the best approach is to flick through all the clues looking for one you can answer quickly. When you’ve entered all the answers that jumped out at you, it’s easier to solve the harder clues because you now know some of the letters. It’s the same with looking at a night’s worth of dreams.  Start by identifying the theme of the easiest one, then look for clues on the same theme in the other dreams. The more clues you solve, the easier it gets.

[Extract from 101 Dream Interpretation Tips - in paperback & ebook - Jane Teresa Anderson]

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How much does worry weigh?

How much does worry weigh?

“Never worry worry, til worry worries you,” my granny used to say. There’s a grain of truth in there, and an even better tongue twister, but the day I really got the measure of worry started as a simple coffee morning with two friends twenty four years ago.

The three of us met once a week so our young children could play together while we caught up over a coffee.

That morning I had opened my cheque book to pay an electricity bill and realized that I was about $100 short in our bill paying account. I had miscalculated when setting our household budget, and I was disappointed in myself.

My worry over that bill weighed heavily.

My worry over that bill weighed heavily.

We had money in other accounts, but I would have to go to the bank (those pre-internet banking days!), organize transfers, and, by the time I made my payment, it would be overdue. (I laugh as I type, because I have since handled much bigger budgets and much greater shortfalls, and I’m still here to tell the tale.)

My worry over that bill weighed heavily on me as I walked into my friend’s kitchen for our morning coffee. I was last to arrive.

She was worried. Which diamond should she buy?

She was worried. Which diamond should she buy?

“I’ve got to make a decision this afternoon,” one friend was saying to the other, “what do you think, the champagne or the pink?” She was talking about a new ring, not to wear – though she would – but as an investment. Champagne diamond, or pink diamond, which should it be?

She was worried. She wanted to make the best choice. We were her friends. We talked it through.

“We may have to sell our house,” began the other friend, once we’d covered every facet of the diamond question, “and rent a home instead. Our business is moving into more debt than we can handle.”

She was worried. Was there an alternative she was overlooking? We were her friends. We talked it through.

What I noticed that morning from the emotional energy we each carried, was that our worries weighed the same, even though a bystander would notice that each worry was based on money. A shortfall of about $100 weighed the same as a shortfall of about a quarter of a million dollars which weighed the same as an abundance of disposable income.

A shortfall of about $100 weighed the same as a shortfall of about a quarter of a million dollars which weighed the same as an abundance of disposable income.

A shortfall of about $100 weighed the same as a shortfall of about a quarter of a million dollars which weighed the same as an abundance of disposable income.

Worry, I noticed, expands to fill the available space, so the trick is not to allow it any. Or, as I often express it these days whenever it is appropriate, “There are two ways to do this. One is to worry, the other is to not worry.”

Not worrying does not mean not caring, of course. It means not wasting energy worrying when you could be putting that energy to constructive use.

That coffee morning, I gained a new perspective on worry that worked for me, but what about those times when, as my granny’s saying put it, “worry worries you”? What about those times when something is niggling and worrying you and making you anxious and you can’t escape it? That’s where dream work comes in. Your dreams – particularly your recurring, unresolved dreams – can help you to understand unconscious beliefs that throw dark clouds where there should be light, that distract you with worry rather than inspire you towards great outcomes.

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Episode 94 The Dream Show: Roman(y) Greek

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Margaret is my very entertaining guest today, laughing her way through her dream and its interpretation, while deeply connecting with its meaning, experiencing ahas, and ending up all the richer for the experience – oh, and she’s still laughing by the end of the show.

In her dream, Margaret looks down on a beautiful, calm, fertile patch of grass studded with grazing cattle, and then pans back to get a wider view and sees her serene patch of green is nestled high up on a ledge inside a big, steep canyon. Now, what could that mean?

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Add a couple of Greek style ranches that need a bit of love and care, and a mysterious woman from the 1970s with a letter marked ‘return to sender’, and we have all we need to explore Margaret’s unconscious and come up with meaningful insight. So, let the show begin!

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Your tune

If you were a song, what would it be?

If you were a song, what would it be? Which lyrics spring to mind to express the essence of your being, or even just the way you feel today?

I’m taking you through a tune up, or maybe a change of tune, and all this is courtesy of a recent life coaching client* who dreamed of telling a singer he was putting emphasis on the wrong syllables – darling instead of darling – and losing the essence and power of his song.

Where do you put emphasis in your daily life? What might happen if you changed this? What might happen if you began to put more energy and attention into areas of your life that you usually tend to downplay or dismiss? What might happen if you put less energy and attention into things you generally regard as high priority? Your gut response answers may be enlightening and insightful in ways you cannot imagine, so get a pen and piece of paper and let your answers flow.

While the details of my client’s dream are confidential and related specifically to her life, the analogy offers life changing potential for everyone, so let’s play some more:

If you were a song, what’s your chorus? What’s the recurring story you tell yourself or other people? What’s the repetitive line?

Is this chorus serving you well? Could you rewrite it? What might happen if you sang a new chorus to yourself and to others?

What might happen if you change the rhythm of your life, (your day, your relationship, your work, your social life), changed your regular habits, created a new pattern?

Is there harmony in your life? How can you increase harmony?

Imagine changing the style of your song, perhaps a jazz version, techno, string quartet, country, brass, folk, hip hop. What might happen if you change your (life)style?

What if you changed the pitch of your tune, pitched to a different market, pitched to a different audience, pitched to match ears and hearts that are important to you?

And what if you change the tone (modulate your message), the conductor (the pace, control, integration, interpretation), the instruments (your methods and means of expression)?

Energetically, the world responds to your vibration.

Energetically, the world responds to your vibration.

Energetically, the world responds to your vibration. Shift your vibration and you shift your world. My client’s dream gifted her a beautiful analogy – liken your vibration to a song, then shift emphasis to ‘get it right’.

Look ahead to where you would like to be, then choose the song that matches that place. Sing it with all your heart.

* Thank you to my client for allowing me to share her dream’s analogy.

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