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Killer ghosts

Dream interpretation Radio 2GB Killer ghosts

“I dreamed ghosts were coming out from the walls and mirrors upstairs, killing people,” said Lynn, who called Radio 2GB this week when I was interpreting dreams on Chris Smith’s afternoon show. “In the dream, I thought I have to get mum to come and clean the house,” she added.

What does it mean?

Lynn described the house in her dream as double storey, and said she was on the ground floor, and the killer ghosts were upstairs. She really emphasised the ‘double storey’ and since dreams often employ word play, I wondered if there was a ‘double story’ going on in Lynn’s life. I didn’t mention this on air, and it’s certainly not as dark as it may sound. I’m not talking about a double life, or a secret life, but you’ll get the picture as you read on.

I wondered if there was a ‘double story’ going on in Lynn’s life.

I wondered if there was a ‘double story’ going on in Lynn’s life.

What I did say to Lynn in the couple of minutes or so that the radio show format allows, was that the ghosts probably represent feelings of being haunted by her past, perhaps regrets, perhaps loss, perhaps limiting beliefs.

In her dream, Lynn is in a practical space, on the ground floor. The ground floor probably represents her physical body and everyday world, while the upstairs probably represents her higher self – her mind, thoughts, beliefs. It’s up there, in the mind, that the past can live on in ghostly form to affect the way we live our lives today – and in the future.

Lynn’s dream ghosts were coming out from the walls and mirrors, suggesting that, until the dream, they were tucked away, hidden behind the walls and inside mirrors. Something must have happened, in Lynn’s life, to release her ghosts of the past from where she had safely hidden them.

Ah, but that’s the thing. Safely hiding (or blocking or denying) aspects of the past deep within ourselves is not the solution. Our ghosts of the past may be unseen, but they still influence the way we live our lives. They hold us back, keep us limited and fearful, even when we’ve hidden them so deep in our unconscious that we’ve forgotten about them. The unconscious powerfully influences our decisions and responses in life, like it or not.

The way to free yourself from the past is to bring your ghosts out of hiding, acknowledge them, and release them.

The way to free yourself from the past is to bring your ghosts out of hiding, acknowledge them, and release them.

The way to free yourself from the past is to bring your ghosts out of hiding, acknowledge them, and release them. Let your ghosts rest in peace, whether that means forgiving others, forgiving yourself, or simply realising that life’s greatest gifts can come in strange packages.

I asked Lyn to describe her mother. She said she was spiritual, mystical. Our radio time was running out, but I suggested that her mother may represent personal or spiritual development, so the dream solution of bringing her mother in to clean the house was a good one: clean up (the ghosts of the past) by doing some personal or spiritual work – much as I have described in this blog.

We are all influenced by our past, and a lot of it is good stuff, stuff to hold onto. Our dreams can help show us which aspects of our past haunt us and hold us back, and Lynn’s dream symbol of scary killer ghosts delivers the message.

Life’s greatest gifts can come in strange packages.

Life’s greatest gifts can come in strange packages.

And what of the double storey/ double story word play? There’s the story we tell ourselves about our life, the story we’re conscious of, and there’s the story that’s going on behind the scenes – behind our walls and mirrors, upstairs in our mind, deep in the unconscious, the story we’re not aware of until our dreams awaken us.

Life can be tough when your conscious and unconscious stories conflict. How wonderful then, that dreams can reveal what we need to know, and that dream alchemy can assist us to transform the inner story into a positive, supportive one that helps us move forward in life successfully and with ease.

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Episode 119 The Dream Show: Chinese goldfish

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Episode 119 The Dream Show Chinese goldfish

Lea, my guest having her dream interpreted in this episode, dreamed of a poet who had been murdered long ago in a small Chinese town. She found his body parts and laid some out so that they would be discovered.

Later in her dream she told of a man she once loved who caught a fantastical Chinese goldfish by dancing the hook along the water rather than by using bait.

What’s the connection between China, the poet, the dancing hook, a wise old man, and a bottle of wine that needed to be shared between fourteen people?

The Dream Show, a free monthly podcast with Jane Teresa AndersonLea is in the process of making a key decision, and today’s dream interpretation helps her to do this with confidence by making her aware of the perspective of her unconscious mind on the subject.

Listen in as we connect the dream-fantastical to Lea’s waking life. Hear Lea’s responses, her story, and the dream alchemy we create.

This is one of those episodes you will love to share. Listen here.

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Cheating dreams

Cheating dreams

“I dreamed my partner was cheating on me. It felt so real. Should I confront him? Please help.”

Every week I receive at least one email asking this question. So, what’s the answer? Is the dream picking up on the partner’s actual cheating behaviour or unfulfilled desires? Is it about the dreamer’s fear of being cheated, perhaps based on past experiences of betrayal? Or does this dream have an entirely different meaning?

The danger of this kind of dream is that it gnaws away at you, especially if it is a recurring dream, and especially if it’s realistic. If your partner is bedding a famous film actor, for example, you won’t spend a moment worrying about whether the dream was true, but if his dream lover was someone you know, or one of his work colleagues, your suspicions might be aroused. You might wonder whether he’s having an affair, would like to have an affair, or is more attracted to the friend or work colleague than to you. You might start to question your partner about his or her time away from you, or you might withdraw emotionally or physically, creating relationship difficulties where none existed before. All based on a dream that felt real.

There are dangers in taking a dream literally, even when the dream feels so real.

There are dangers in taking a dream literally, even when the dream feels so real.

Cheating dreams are not what they seem. Further in this post I will give some guidelines on what they mean, but to help you understand this, have a think about this first:

Dreams that feel real can get you into trouble. People spend years fruitlessly searching for a soul mate they met in a dream that felt real. They look for someone with the same physical characteristics as the dream mate, or with the same name, or in the same location. Unless chance steps their way, they fail because the dream is about finding the other half of your own soul (or vitality) when it has been lost. When you have found the lost part of your own soul, you are more likely to attract your true soul mate, but the journey must start within.

Another common dream that feels so real is the one experienced by many new parents.

Another common dream that feels so real is the one experienced by many new parents.

Another common dream that feels so real is the one experienced by many new parents. The dream shows their child dying, usually either by drowning or car accident. The emotional intensity is so heightened that the terrified parent can become stressed and overprotective, believing the dream is a preview of the child’s death. But this dream is so common that if it really was predictive the human race would have died out long ago. The meaning of this dream varies from parent to parent, but it’s generally about the many changes that parenting brings into your life.  (You can read more about the symbolism of death dreams here.)

The soul mate dream and the child death dream are both examples of dreams that feel so real the dreamers take them literally. They search for their soul mate because they’ve met him in a dream, and they do everything they can to prevent the death they feel they have previewed. Are you beginning to see the connection to cheating dreams?

I recently heard about a woman who had horrific dreams during her first pregnancy. The early dreams were about neglecting babies. In some dreams she forgot to feed them, in others she forgot to change their nappies. She mentioned them briefly to her partner, but in a light-hearted manner, testing his response, laughing them off. She didn’t tell him the dreams were worrying her or that she had decided the dreams meant she would be a bad mother. The more she worried about being a bad mother, the worse the dreams became. They escalated in neglect, abuse and violence. In one of the last dreams before her baby was born, she dreamed she placed the baby on the road and drove a truck over him.

Sadly, because her early dreams felt so real, she suffered misgivings about her ability to be a good mother.

Sadly, because her early dreams felt so real, she suffered misgivings about her ability to be a good mother.

She didn’t take the dreams literally. She knew she would never place her baby in front of a truck. But she did take the symbol of the baby literally. She saw her dreams as being about her future relationship with her baby.

What she didn’t know was that her dreams are very common. Mothers, fathers, teenagers, people who have decided never to have children, and people who have missed the opportunity to have a child may ALL experience this kind of dream. It’s not a dream about bad mothering instincts. It’s not a dream about real babies. It’s a dream about neglecting your own needs. It’s a bit like the soul mate dream. It’s about looking after yourself so that you can be healthy and well, for example to look after your baby.

As it turned out, this woman suffered antenatal depression. She only realised this in the later stages of her pregnancy. Her dream baby was the part of herself that needed caring for, that needed help and treatment. Sadly, because her early dreams felt so real, she suffered misgivings about her ability to be a good mother on top of her depression. She may or may not also have had real fears or beliefs about becoming a bad mother, but that was not what her dream was about.

By now you can see that there are dangers in taking a dream literally, even when the dream feels so real. The same applies to cheating dreams.

Beware ever taking a dream literally. To do so can be dangerous to yourself and others, as well as missing out on the helpful insight your dream can give you. There are occasions where some dreams turn out to be predictive, but these are rare, and by focussing on this angle you stand to lose all the personal insight each and every dream offers.

Dreams are about you.

Dreams are about you.

Dreams are about you. The soul mate, child, baby, or cheating partner is a symbol for what’s going on within you.

Dreams about cheating are about what’s going on within you. Cheating is a betrayal of trust, a promise broken. Cheating is lying. When you have these dreams, ask yourself where you might be cheating yourself. Here are some examples:

1. You may be lying to yourself about something. There may be something in your life you don’t really want to admit. You deny it to others and you may deny it to yourself too. In other words, you may be ‘in denial’ over something. Explore your feelings more honestly.

2. You may be betraying something you once promised. Your promise might have been ‘I won’t eat any more chocolate,’ or ‘I will become a surgeon,’ or  ‘Fromthis moment on, I’ll only think positive thoughts,’ or ‘I will live by the laws of my religion,’ or ‘I will always please my mother’. Your cheating dream may come up because you have broken your promise by eating a chocolate, thinking negative thoughts, or not doing something for the sake of pleasing your mother, for example. Your dreaming mind takes betraying promises very seriously, even when it may be healthier for you to release yourself from the hold of promises no longer appropriate to your wellbeing.

Your dreaming mind takes betraying promises very seriously, even when it may be healthier for you to release yourself from the hold of promises no longer appropriate to your wellbeing.

Your dreaming mind takes betraying promises very seriously, even when it may be healthier for you to release yourself from the hold of promises no longer appropriate to your wellbeing.

3. You may be cheating yourself out of giving life your best shot. You might be holding back from expressing your talents in the world, betraying your ideals, or settling for second best.

4. You may be going through some changes, exchanging old beliefs and old ways of looking at the world for new ones. At such times, halfway between the old and the new, your conflicted mind may feel like it’s betraying the old way, turning its back on things you’ve trusted up until now. Your cheating dreams may reflect this kind of transition.

So, don’t confront your partner when you next have a cheating dream. Confront yourself. Dreams help you to understand yourself more clearly, and, once you can do that, you can make decisions that are right for you.

[Copyright Jane Teresa Anderson, June 2007. First published as a Dream Sight article.]

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Soul mate dreams

Have you met your soul mate in your dreams?

Have you met your soul mate in your dreams? Perhaps you have glimpsed your soul mate on the horizon, heard his voice, felt his presence. Or maybe you have been magnetically drawn to look deeply into his eyes, seeing perfect love within. Or felt his unwavering support, his total commitment to you, his ability to help you along your way, knowing exactly what you need. Or felt his embrace, protective, lingering, heart-tripping, a promise or fulfilment of passionately loving sex.

Have you woken up wishing you could capture the details of his face, or with his features firmly etched into your heart? Have you wondered how to find him, where to begin your search to find the man – or woman – of your dreams?

Many a dreamer has spurned other lovers and endlessly searched, for the search is endless

Many a dreamer has spurned other lovers and endlessly searched, for the search is endless

This experience is so warm, real, and uplifting that many a dreamer has spurned other lovers and endlessly searched, for the search is endless. The dream soul mate does not exist – except deep within your own soul.

This dream comes up when it’s time for you to connect with all those wonderful qualities you sensed in your dream soul mate – to find and connect with these qualities within you. They are there! You wouldn’t have felt them in your dream if they were not! It’s time for you to bring these qualities up from where they are hiding or latent in your unconscious, and introduce them to the light of day.

Dreams love to play with words. When you look deeply into your dream lover’s eyes, you are looking – and feeling – deeply into your own ‘I’. You are ‘I to I’ or face to face with yourself. Well, not face to face perhaps, but soul to soul, through your eyes, the windows of the soul.

Meeting your soul mate in a dream is about meeting own magical self

Meeting your soul mate in a dream is about meeting own magical self

Name the three top qualities you admired or longed for in your dream soul mate, the qualities that warmed and completed you. These are the qualities you need to locate within yourself, and nourish and encourage into your everyday being. Here’s the best secret of all. When you connect with your inner soul mate, your perfect partner usually appears in your life, attracted by … his soul mate, you.

[This blog is an extract from 101 Dream Interpretation Tips, available in paperback and ebook.]

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