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Otherwise, other wise

"Who's going to take the plug out, you or me?" I'd ask.Bath time, when my children were very small, was great fun until the moment came to lift them from the water. They never wanted to get out. Eventually I found the happy solution.

“Who’s going to take the plug out, you or me?” I’d ask.

“Me! Me! I want to!” would come the unerring reply.

Once the water was gone, they were happy to leap out and move on to the next game. It worked until they were old enough to realise that I was giving them severely limited options and that it was me who was really pulling the plug on their fun.

A man once told me about a dream in which he was in a rowing boat on a calm lake when five tornadoes appeared. The tornadoes struck the water and spun it into gurgling holes, as if five enormous bath plugs had been pulled from the sand beneath the lake. He felt the dream was warning him that his money, invested in various projects, was going ‘down the gurgler’.

Our warning dreams motivate us to take action. But what kind of action should we take?

He felt the dream was warning him that his money, invested in various projects, was going 'down the gurgler'.

He felt the dream was warning him that his money, invested in various projects, was going ‘down the gurgler’.

Are our dream warnings accurate, or do they reflect our fears and beliefs?  Was this man’s money inevitably going down the gurgler or was he projecting (and creating) this outcome based on his unconscious beliefs and experiences – his conditioning? Had the plug already been pulled or did he have more expansive options?

And, in any case, was this man’s dream about his financial affairs or did it reflect other valuable information he could apply to ensure calm waters in his life?

My children expected only one outcome: that the plug would be removed in the next minute and the water would go down the plughole. So the outcome always manifested. If they had been older they might have suggested we run more hot water, stay in the bath longer, get take-away instead of cooking dinner and still get to bed on time. They would have learned the lesson that other wise options always exist. Or they might have stayed in the bath until the water went cold and learned a different but equally wise lesson from their experience.

My children expected only one outcome: that the plug would be removed in the next minute and the water would go down the plughole.

My children expected only one outcome: that the plug would be removed in the next minute and the water would go down the plughole.

Alternatives. Wider choices. Whichever way, we gain wisdom from our choices if we are open enough to learn the lessons they offer. Sometimes the wisdom is learned under happy circumstances (the hot water and take-away choice) and sometimes less happy circumstances (the cold water choice).

“Take the plug out? Otherwise what?” my children might have asked, had they been older back in the bath plug days. “Otherwise you will become other wise”, I may have replied.

To grow, to gain wisdom, we often need change. We need to challenge ourselves to explore the wider options of the otherwise.

If life wisdom is the path, there can be no wrong choices. Just different choices and different routes. But if we hold a vision, a goal, how can we find the best route, the one that delivers both the desired reward and wisdom?

Well, naturally our dreams provide the answers but how can we recognise them?

Our dreams are symbolic snapshots in time: picturing your current mindset.

Our dreams are symbolic snapshots in time: picturing your current mindset.

Our dreams are symbolic snapshots in time. They show us ourselves – our conscious and unconscious beliefs, experiences, memories and feelings relating to life at the time of the dream. Specifically they show us (once interpreted) how our unconscious beliefs are affecting our waking life and where those beliefs originated.

It is our beliefs – especially our unconscious ones – that shape our future. Above all, our fears shape our future by limiting our choices. We tend not to take the path that requires us to face our fears. Pulling the plug seems an easier option.

Our dreams are blueprints of the future, projecting outcomes based on our past responses to life.

Our dreams are blueprints of the future, projecting outcomes based on our past responses to life.

Looked at in this way, our dreams are blueprints of the future, projecting outcomes based on our past responses to life. In this way too, dreams can be said to be prophetic.

If the man’s tornado dream was indeed about his financial affairs then it may have been reflecting his fears and beliefs that his money would go down the gurgler, and such fears possibly may have created that result.

What was his dream advising him to do?

He may have saved money by withdrawing his investments if he was in danger of creating doom.

Otherwise he could use the dream to identify the negative fears and beliefs and change them, using dream alchemy practices.  By changing the blueprint his projected future changes and the situation is defused.

Change the blueprint to change the future.

Change the blueprint to change the future.

To change the outcome, change the belief.

To change the outer world, change the inner one.

Beware the warning dream otherwise you may miss the real gold.

(The deeper meaning of the dream: The five tornadoes represented five major changes – the winds of change – in this man’s life that, each time, had ‘torn’ his calm world apart. Water often represents the emotions. These changes had stirred his deepest emotions, even though all appeared calm on the surface. His dream reflected his belief, based on these experiences, that whenever things were calm, a huge change would sweep in and shake him to the core. This belief extended to his financial affairs, ensuring regular calamity. His dream required him to look back at those changes to reap the wisdom of the otherwise and to transform his beliefs in destructive change into constructive change.)

[Copyright Jane Teresa Anderson, August 2003. First published as a Dream Sight article.]

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Episode 113 The Dream Show: TheDreamShow.TV

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The Dream Show, a free weekly podcast with Jane Teresa AndersonIs it a good thing or a bad thing to replay a dream over and over again in your mind’s eye?

While many dreams slip away as soon as we open our eyes, some haunt us for days, whether we invite them in or whether we’d prefer to forget them. Why is this, and is their lingering presence helpful or harmful? In today’s show we explore this, ponder the question of whether you can dream of past lives, and delve into some dream interpretation.

We’re delighted with our fresh, newly branded TheDreamShow.TV site. We’ve been producing our weekly podcast for over two years now, with an ever-growing audience tuning in from 30 countries around the world. Along with our expanding audience came new requirements and a new vision, and James Williams and his team at Lifestyle PodNetwork, where our show is hosted, created and launched TheDreamShow.TV this week to embrace these. Our episodes now download very fast,  you can interact, there’s fresh new artwork, and much more. Of course we’re still on iTunes too!

Enjoy today’s show. Listen here: Episode 113

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Watch my lips

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What you need to know is right in front of you, and in your dreams, if you know how to look. The tricky bit is that the reason you are seeing a problem instead of a solution, darkness instead of light, is that your vision is blocked by your expectations, especially your unconscious expectations.

Your waking life and dreams are often speaking plainly, loud and clear, but the block distorts the message.

“Watch my lips,” we might say to someone who isn’t hearing the simple statement we are making because it doesn’t match their expectation of the moment.

One of Michael’s friends from way back handed her lotto (lottery) ticket to her newsagent to see if she’d won anything. He ran the ticket through the machine. “You’d better sit down,” he told her, handing her a piece of paper with the result. “Congratulations!”

She sat down, and read the print out. “$3,000, wonderful!” she laughed.

“Take a deep breath, and read it properly,” insisted the newsagent.

“Take a deep breath, and read it properly,” insisted the newsagent.

“Look again,” said the newsagent.

“Oh, $30,000!” she said, surprised at having misread it the first time, and rather excited at the timing of this much-needed gift.

“Take a deep breath, and read it properly,” insisted the newsagent.

“$300,000! It can’t be,” her heart fluttering, a little panic rising.

This was several years ago, in New Zealand, and she had just gone back into the workforce after having children, needing to make ends meet. In the space of a minute, she had gone from winning a celebratory $3,000 (a holiday, perhaps), to a debt-clearing $30,000, to the prospect of paying off their mortgage and buying a new house with the $300,000 winnings.

But can you guess what happened next?

“Look again,” said the newsagent.

She had won three million dollars. She had been unable to see all the zeroes at first because winning such a sum simply did not fit her expectation, and/or because the thought of having three million dollars raised confusion, worry and negative beliefs about being rich.

I smiled when she told me, a few weeks later, that the only thing she’d bought so far was a new pair of sunglasses (shades). A great way to view the world while accustoming to a new perspective! Which, she did, in the end!

He needed to be rescued from a weird cult, where they taught false creationist theories.

He needed to be rescued from a weird cult, where they taught false creationist theories.

I was reminded of this last week when a client sent me a dream about a ten year old boy who needed to be rescued from a weird cult, where they taught “false creationist theories”. (She was so surprised on learning what it meant that she offered it to me to share in public.) The boy in the dream was ten years old. “I was ten when my father died,” she told me. “My father, who later turned out to be my stepfather.”

Can you see the connection?

To me it was loud, clear, and obvious. Her dream was about the “false creationist theories” she was given, as a child, about her origins. She was falsely informed – or it was implied – that the man she called father was her biological father, responsible, with her mother, for her creation.

The rest of her dream showed how the emotional trauma she had experienced when she discovered the truth (or falsity) of her identity has been blocking her from moving her work into the public arena. She feels vulnerable about public exposure. The block has been her unconscious mind’s way of ‘protecting’ her from further hurt, even though life would be more rewarding for her today if she were freed from this ‘protection’. This was welcome information, and her new awareness combined with applying dream alchemy will break through the block and she will find herself moving forward comfortably.

Although she has known for many years that her father was, in fact, her stepfather ...

Although she has known for many years that her father was, in fact, her stepfather …

Although she has known for many years that her father was, in fact, her stepfather, she did not know that she carried an emotional wound that was influencing the way she lives her life today. The wound was the block that blinded her from seeing, even as she described her dream to me, that her ten year old self had learned “false creationist theories”.

I love that dream symbols that can appear so weird at first glance make perfect commonsense when we look again and watch their lips.

Sometimes you can do that looking again and watching of lips yourself. Sometimes your block is too big, your expectations too set. That’s where I can help you, of course.

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Episode 112 The Dream Show: Dream people

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The Dream Show, a free weekly podcast with Jane Teresa AndersonWho dreams about you? How many dreams have you starred in, or played a cameo role? Think of  all the different people who have appeared in your dreams over the years – people you know well, people you vaguely know, people you know of but have never met.

People in our dreams are symbols, but of what?

In this episode I give you The Identity Method – how to interpret the meaning of the people who appear in your dreams. It’s an extract from my book, Dream Alchemy.

Also in today’s show, we take a quick look at how searching for word play in dreams can deliver clues to interpretation, illustrating this with some quirky laugh-out-loud dreams contributed to a recent breakfast radio show by listeners calling in to consult me on air.  Enjoy.

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Dream symbols: Word association

Think of it as a kind of surprise attack.Bust the meaning of a weird dream symbol by playing the word association game. For this, you need a piece of paper, a pen, a few minutes of uninterrupted peace, and a timer.

Write your dream symbol at the top of your page, set your timer for two minutes, and jot down the first word that comes into your head when you think about your symbol. Quickly follow this by the next word that comes into your head, and then the next, and so on. Don’t think, don’t pause, and write fast. It doesn’t matter whether the words you write all spring directly from thinking about your dream symbol, or whether they follow on from some of the other words flowing onto your page. Keep going until your two minutes is up.

Imagine your dream symbol is ‘hairpin’, for example. You might start something like this.

Hairpin, hairpin bend, mountain road, treacherous, treachery, treason, Guy Fawkes Night, fireworks, explosions … continuing for two minutes.

Give it a go. It takes just two minutes, it’s fun to do, and it usually yields surprising results.

Give it a go. It takes just two minutes, it’s fun to do, and it usually yields surprising results.

When your two minutes is up, look over your list and see if anything significant jumps out at you. If you’ve really written fast, your unconscious mind will have come up with some surprising connections. This method teases the meaning of your dream symbol from your unconscious mind. Think of it as a kind of surprise attack.

In the example, you might look back over the words and suddenly remember being eight years old and taking a hairpin from your hair to dig out some of the explosive from a firework. Your parents didn’t notice the firework had been tampered with, they lit it, and it exploded sideways, narrowly missing burning the family dog. Your hairpin dream symbol suddenly feels right as a perfect symbol for guilt.

This example may sound silly, but when you do this exercise, you’ll know when you’ve identified your symbol correctly because it will feel so right and your dream interpretation will suddenly make sense.

Give it a go. It takes just two minutes, it’s fun to do, and it usually yields surprising results.

[Extract from 101 Dream Interpretation Tips, Jane Teresa Anderson]

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Episode 111 The Dream Show: Ethereal girl

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Sophia is my guest today having her dream interpreted while you listen in to witness the process, pick up interpretation tips, and share the insights.

Sophia went to bed the night before our recording, asking for a special dream to bring to the show. She had seven dreams, and since all dreams on one night are usually connected in theme, we looked at three of these and quickly browsed the others. We struck plenty of gold.

There’s the ethereal winged girl with eyes like white bird’s eggs that flies down to chat with Sophia, there’s a warehouse packed with plane parts, there’s an unconscious, dehydrated dog, a policeman with a special gift, a sea voyage that is successful against the odds, and a trip to see the Queen.

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How are these all linked, how do they relate to Sophia’s life, and what insight can she take from this night’s worth of dreams to make a big difference in her life? Listen in to find out!

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A bunch of fives

In one eight-hour sleep, you have about five dreams, whether or not you remember them all.  The good news is that all the dreams you have in one night usually address the same issue, so if you start with the one that seems easiest to interpret, you can identify the theme, and then see if it applies to the others.

If you start with the one that seems easiest to interpret, you can identify the theme.

If you start with the one that seems easiest to interpret, you can identify the theme.

For example, you might be struggling financially and, after a particularly difficult day, your dreaming mind sets out to process your issues about money.

The first dream of the night might look at this from an emotional point of view, perhaps showing you ‘up to your neck’ in water, almost drowning in tears.

The second dream might look at this from an historic perspective, reminding you of past events and experiences that have shaped your approach to finances.

The third dream might look at how you’re coping from a practical point of view, perhaps showing you propping yourself up (with loans or distractions) whenever the ground feels unstable.

The fourth dream might get creative, looking for possible solutions to your present crisis, and so on.

You can magnify this insight if you explore the other dreams of the same night.

You can magnify this insight if you explore the other dreams of the same night.

As you can see, any one dream on a night gives you excellent insight into any issue, but you can magnify this insight if you explore the other dreams of the same night. If you only ever remember one dream, don’t worry. You’re not missing out. That one dream provides insight, and there will be other dreams on other nights. It’s a good idea to watch a run of dreams over a period of days, or even weeks, before making a big decision, to allow the opportunity to gather a range and depth of insights.

Do you enjoy doing crosswords? If so, you’ll probably have noticed that the best approach is to flick through all the clues looking for one you can answer quickly. When you’ve entered all the answers that jumped out at you, it’s easier to solve the harder clues because you now know some of the letters. It’s the same with looking at a night’s worth of dreams.  Start by identifying the theme of the easiest one, then look for clues on the same theme in the other dreams. The more clues you solve, the easier it gets.

[Extract from 101 Dream Interpretation Tips - in paperback & ebook - Jane Teresa Anderson]

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Episode 110 The Dream Show: Pitfalls & Blessings

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Do you know the story of Chicken Licken? It was one of my favourite childhood stories. Last week we looked at children’s dreams and nightmares and this week we’re following theme by looking at one of my childhood recurring dreams and the blessings it continues to bestow many decades later. Chicken Licken gets a look in on the show too.

We also look at life’s potential pitfalls, and what to do about them, and life’s potential blessings and how we might fail to recognise them.

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Insight guaranteed this week, enjoy! Oh, and there’s a special surprise Michael added right at the end, so don’t switch off until you hear it!

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Brig dreamed of taking her dog for a walk, only on the end of the leash was a ...

Dreams, even when they’re scary, can be very playful. Some are laugh out loud funny, like Brig’s dream of taking her dog for a walk only instead of her dog what was on the end of the leash was a bit of lamb’s fry (offal). Deep and meaningful though the dream was, you’ve just got to laugh, and Brig’s co-presenter and anchor on Radio Mix 101.1FM Melbourne certainly made meat of that one on their breakfast show last week. It was an offal dream for Brig, but perfect breakfast fodder for the team, and we managed to get to the bottom of it pretty quickly.

Yvonne phoned the station with a dream of being a passenger in a plane, enjoying her trip until she looked out the window and noticed the plane had no wings. What was keeping it airborne? She looked towards the cockpit – chickens were harnessed to the plane keeping it aloft. That was fine by Yvonne until she remembered, in the dream, that chickens have clipped wings. She painted a playful picture, and look at those plays on words – cockpit and chickens. We’re ‘chicken’ when we’re scared, and Yvonne was pretty scared at the thought of being at the mercy of a band of wingless chickens. A wingless plane, wingless chickens, and yet the plane was safely flying along and getting somewhere.

Yvonne was pretty scared at the thought of being at the mercy of a band of wingless chickens.

Yvonne was pretty scared at the thought of being at the mercy of a band of wingless chickens.

Yvonne’s dream suggests she can achieve far more than she thinks and fears. She may fear that her plans and ideas don’t have wings, but they do. There’s so much more to Yvonne’s dream than breakfast radio allows time to say, but simply looking for word play is fun and gives a clue to the interpretation.

Rachel’s dream of dating a dentist who gave her a gift of a dental cup containing dental floss and mouthwash made us all smile, and she related to my brief interpretation about taking a new attitude to how she communicates – clean, clear, fresh, positive words and intent. “Yes,” she said, “that makes sense.” How playful of her dream to go for a dental hygiene theme to encapsulate this.

Andrea’s recurring dream was more frightening. She dreams of being smothered by hair while in bed, and sees a chest at the bottom of the bed with a light that pulls her down. She wakes up struggling for breath.

My quick on air interpretation was that Andrea’s dream comes up when she feels restricted during the day, as if she can’t breathe to claim her space to express herself, and that this ‘pulls her down’, depresses her. It was spot on, she could relate to it. There’s so much more to her dream, but notice again how helpful it is to look for word play. The chest at the bottom of the bed is also Andrea’s chest, the place where her lungs are situated, her breathing centre. Although she feels depressed about finding it difficult to express herself fully, there’s ‘light’ here, like light at the end of the tunnel. When we can get to the bottom of our feelings, we can see the light about our blocks and how to overcome them. I wonder whether Andrea also suffers from having too many ideas (head stuff, like hair), that she doesn’t know how to ground (make happen), so she feels smothered by too many ideas and no action. The chest is at the bottom of the bed, near Andrea’s feet, and the place for feet to be is on the ground. If Andrea can just ‘pull down’ one or two of those ideas and ground them – make them happen – then there’s light at the end of the tunnel!

Strange creatures, dogs and humans ...

Strange creatures, dogs and humans …

And what about Brig’s dream of the dog that wasn’t, the dog that was, in fact, a bit of lamb’s fry? I won’t spill those beans in this blog (you can get to know Brig and her dreams by tuning into the show next time I’m on), but it does remind me of the time Michael and I took a dog we were looking after for a walk. The dog had been a bit porky, and he trimmed up in our care and was looking pretty good. He had a bit of arthritis in his paws, so he was a plodder to walk. On that particular day we took a slightly longer walk than usual, and we had to slow our pace to match his drag towards the end. Suddenly, home in sight, the leash slackened, and Michael said, “He’s picked up his pace, got a bit of energy now he can see home.” I looked back and there was the dog, still plodding along slowly and faithfully, a long way back down the road, while the empty leash trailed behind Michael. The next day we tossed his old fat dog collar and bought him a nice slim one, though I think the sight of us dragging a leash is all it takes to keep him plodding along. Strange creatures – dogs and humans – conditioned to believe in limitations long since gone.

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